[Mouse_]

If one has a part that is being destructive how do others deal with that part? Do you engage it in communication? Do you let it do what it does?

[onlymedid]

Good question. I guess it depends on the situation and what type of destruction is occurring.
If there is harm to oneself or another then I step in.
If the destruction is to their own stuff, then I let them do it because they know I won't replace it.
So, it truly depends in my system.

[Kiya]

when it is against the body, i try to step in - but i can't always. at one point, that part had been given something she wanted and then was severely acting out on me and i destroyed what i had given her. she was silent a long time after that. i can't give her free reign or she is out of control. she is, after all, 10 yrs old - she needs a strong mom sometimes... when i can remember that she's a kid.

[sunrise]

Sometimes parts really want to help, but don't know how. Can you give suggestions on how to be helpful? Sometimes a part is threatened when his/her longtime role is diminishing or disappearing. If there is no longer a need for his role, will he disappear also? Can be very scary and threatening and could lead to acting out, anger, etc. Suggest new, constructive roles for your parts, offer them in open spirit, and invite them to morph.

[pegasus]

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Everyone has a different system of parts so I can only talk about my system here.

The destructive parts tend to be child-parts that are holding great pain, that may never have been able to express that pain before.

An adult -part needs to come in and allow the child-part to feel whatever the child feels but in a safe way. So the adult can say, 'You are allowed to chuck stuff around, but I'm going to make it safe for you to do so by giving you only soft things to throw...' (A wet dishcloth is real good for this.)

This is just an example, let me know if you need more specific help.