How do you go about finding out what your alters have been up to.. while they are out and about?

l lost most of Sat....

for me... I have to go thru my purse.. to find receipts... and... I found.. "someone" had bought alot of house plants when I went out to my SUV... Sat morn..

I found one of them had withdrawl.. a fair amount of money from my savings account... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....

And I got a call from a person to "arrange deliver" on a antique item one of them purchased... hence the withdrawal from the savings account...

Found an empty girl scout cookie box - peanut butter.. and I only like the mint ones...sooooooooooooo someone likes the peanut butter ones......

so.. do any of you experience this?? or am I the only one....

and does it make you upset... or do you just laugh it off...

have gotten to the point where I try to just laugh... because what else can I do??

but grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..... my savings account....

[beadlady29-old]

Hi freewill!


For me, piecing tog. what my alters have done is often kinda like detective work. i generally find out about what my alters hav been up to in 1 of 2 ways:
People often tell me that i did or said such and such, thaey seen me at such and such a place, etc. i usually have no recollection of this stuff and it tells me that someone else has been out and about.
I also find receipts for items that i do not remember purchasing, along with things appearing in my apartment that i don't know where they came from and also things disappearing that i have no clue what i did with them. (talk about a run-on sent.).
I also get phone return phone calls from people i don't remember calling and this is embarrassing for us as quite often i have no recollection of what they're talking about and it is sometimes very hard to "hide this" from the person we talked to when i wasn't myself.
Just this morning i woke up to find ET receipts on the kitchen table to the tune of over $100.00. Don't remember going and buying the stuff. It really stinks because i'm on disability and now i'm gonna be broke for the rest of the month unless i sell some beadwork.
So, you definitely are not the only one experiencing this and it even sounds like we're both in about the same place regarding understanding how our respective systems work, etc.
It is very frustrating for us but we're learning not to stress out about it because it don't change anything and just makes me more stressed than i need to be. Life is definitely too short to worry about stuff that i've already done and can't change. Oh, and yeah, the financial complications this presents seem to be some of the hardest to "fix" when myself is back
If you need a safe hand to hold mine is reaching out to you and\or if you need a safe place to vent know that i'm always here to help you get over the rough spots and that i'm only a pm away if need be. I do care, and my prayers and thoughts are with you, beadlady29

[RozG]

((((((((Freewill))))))))

i go through the same and i find it very frustrating, so you're not the only one.

*big hugs* to you

[onlymedid]

Well, luckily for me I am mostly co-conscious. There are very few times where I am not in control of the situation, however right after my car accident I would completely lose control at home.

I would cook stuff and eat it, then come back to a sink full of dishes. I would be driving to work and feel like someone else was trying to come forward and I had to struggle to stay present...it was so hard, but I did it.

I would just ask them by writing the questions with my right hand and they respond with my left hand. So far I have gotten all the questions answered.

I don't know what else to say, but I hope it helps to know you are not alone.

BJ

[wanttoheal]

This kind of stuff has always happened (stuff bought, money gone, etc). Because it always just happened, I didn't really even pay attention to it as out of the ordinary. It was only through awareness in what was going on with me that it even became something that I thought it might be something I should pay more attention to. I did think that people were tricking me a lot though so finding out what was going on, after I accepted it, was kind of a relief.

[sunrise]

freewill, do you and your alters have a coooperative relationship? I read in a book about one system of alters where they had a notebook and each one would write in the notebook the time he or she was present and what they did during that time. Then the other alters could keep track of what had happened. Would this work at all for you? Maybe you could also list some "rules" in the book for all to follow, like limits on spending.

[beadlady29-old]

Sunrise, that sounds like an idea woth exploring

beadlady29