[Kendyll]

Jon's moved in with me!
(Yay, yay, yay!)
It's been great. It's a LOT of adjustment for BOTH of us, but we're getting through it all.

Except Jonathan. He came out a few days after the move and he was really upset. Wanted to know why we were at my place, wanting to go back to the apartment, wondering why all his stuff was in boxes. He didn't seem to understand that they moved. I tried to explain it to him, but he stormed away mad. Then Jonny came front and he was just laughing...Come to find out, Jonny didn't even tell Jonathan about moving!

Very funny...NOT!

So Jon's happy to be living with me.
Jonny's happy to be living with me.
Jonathan doesn't understand why they had to move and he's really not coping well. He got so distraught last week he triggered himself into fighting with the dangerous one. I haven't seen him in days now. Last time we talked he told me that he felt unwanted, like nobody needed him anymore. Poor guy.

Is there anything I can do to smooth things out?
Do you guys' alters play tricks on each other?
Now that I'm caught in the middle, what can I do?
Happy Wednesday!!!

[multipixie9]

Kendyll,

Sorry, can't relate to my alts doing stuff like that. My spouse will not accept the diagnosis of DID and I finally realized all my alts were doing their best to suppress their lives and reactions to keep Phil from seeing any of us. This was, of course, messing up our work with our T. I love my spouse, but he's a complete jerk about this because his world view doesn't include the idea that satanic worshippers might use children in ways that would break them down and cause them to split off inside. My dependence on my husband for physical support has caused us to try to not reveal our real life to him and been a huge problem for us. I can't imagine what it would be like to be believed and be able to be all of ourselves in his presence. I'm sure it is hard sometimes, but it is also so free. I sort of envy you a bit.

I hope you guys can reassure Jonathan and get them to work together. Jonathan's life matters as much as anyone elses and eventually there will be problems if they don't work this out. I wish you guys all the best.

Leslie and the Pixies

My alters do "play" tricks on each other... though it is really about getting their own way... which might be contary..to another alter...

This last therapist... has.. moved my "system".... into a more "honest" relationship... mode... with the alters... being upfront.. and "making deals" to get what they want... since they are not co-consious - it is the therapist.. playing the "go-between".....

I think.. he feels more like a mediator.. than a "therapist"... he said he used to do group therapy... and thats what DID therapy feels like to him..

Anyway.. since he started to do this.. there is less conflict... between alters... less..."behind the back"... kind of things happening...