[lashaine]

I have been having trouble with one of my others and I don't know what has triggered her. I hardly ever hear from her and now that she is talking I don't know what to do. I still don't know what triggered her. She is my protector and something has upset her. I just don't know what it is and I don't know how to handle her. Help!

[pegasus]

I don't know, when you find the answer let me know.

[wanttoheal]

Hi lashaine,
Do you have a therapist? Oftentimes my therapist knows what is going on when I don't and has been able to help in understanding. There are reasons for the trigger but sometimes it takes some deep digging to figure it out.

Good luck and please keep us posted.

(((((((((((((((((((((((lashaine))))))))))))))))))))))))))

i wish i could give you some guidance here .... please just know i care and i'm thinking about you .... and keep us posted .....

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[Luce]

The only thing I can suggest is that you talk to her. Ask her what you can do to help, tell her you are there for her. She has been your protector for so long, but it goes both ways and maybe she will let you know of something you can do to help her.

If you don't have good communication with her maybe you could simply talk in her general direction. Tell her you know she's upset and you don't know what the problem is, but you are there for her if she wants to talk to you, and you are willing to listen and do whatever you can to ease her pain.

But only say it if you mean it.

That's what has worked for us in the past anyway.

[multipixie9]

Dear Lashaine,

I have had trouble with some of my alters before I realized that I was not accepting them and being kind to them. I kinda looked at them as getting in my way. I wasn't being grateful for all they had done and were doing for me still.

I agree with Luce. Try talking to this part of you and letting her know you appreciate her. Our protectors are a very huge part of what kept us safer when we were younger.

Just a thought, but what about asking her some questions and then getting paper and pen and letting her write to you if she is willing. Whatever she writes thank her for it and accept it no matter how you feel about it.

I hope it helps some. Hang in there

Leslieann