[onlymedid]

Why do the little always gotta eat bad stuff and make big angry at all of us? she always eats the junk stuff and big be tryin to eat the good stuff cuz she gots a real big body. big keep trying to put out some good stuff but the little one come out and eat the bad stuff. she thinks she can just eat what she wants she says 'I can eat what ever I want and you cant do nuthin bout it'. I know I am just a teen but I dont think its right for her to do that cuz big is trying real hard.

how do you get little to stop eating all that bad stuff? I can't get her to listen to me

thanks,
Beau

[wanttoheal]

Oops, I think I answered this post but in another one.

I'll repost it here, in case it helps. If it doesn't relate, just disregard

I struggle with an eating disorder, among some other stuff. Situations and food can cause a lot of domino effects here because as a child, I was not allowed food much. So if the body gets hungry, it triggers that time of my life when I was not allowed food. And then things get stolen (from refridge, cupboard, etc) and eaten, which causes problems for parts of my brain that rejects food. Overall it's very hard and my health is jeopardized.

A solution that I have found to work some times is eating very small meals several times a day. I try to have something every 3 hours or so if I am not in a dissociated state (obviously it doesn't always work because I still dissociate to a high degree ) When I am able to do that, then the part of my brain that gets triggered when hungry is calm and I have more control about what goes into my body, which in turn helps the parts of my brain that struggle with the eating disorder.

While this doesn't always work, it's helpful for the times that it does.

Maybe someone else has some other suggestions too but this is what has helped here to a degree. Good luck with everything

[multipixie9]

hi, i know how this feels because i am having the same kind of thing in a pretty extreme way also. i am going to talk to my T tomorrow about this but one thought came up that might help.

you could try getting out paper and writing and drawing things and ask some questions. ask the little one why she eats the way she eats, ask her if she is eating because she is angry or scared or to make her feelings go away or feel better. try to not get angry with her and talk nicely to her and see if you all can work on some kind of cooperation deal.

food is weird. its just supposed to be fuel for our bodies but some of us got strange messages about food and some had food pushed that they had to eat and others, as wanttoheal posted were deprived of food and hurt by lack of food. i'm beginning to think that sugary food got linked to some of my abuse and its getting crazy because we need something to break a chain that links us to crazy eating for weird cult stuff - sorry if that is TMI.

i used to get so angry with my alts. i was mean to them like they were rotten little brats. and the more i did that the more i was almost like their abusers and my T had to help me see how i was doing things wrong. more and more now i try to be nice to my littles and take better care of them and accept them and i have less headaches and less times where they sabotage me or force a take-over by an alter.

i think its good you are trying to help get answers for your system. that is really smart of you. hope things get better soon! PM me if i can ever help or encourage you.

leslie and her pixies

[onlymedid]

Yah, we got probs from long time ago with the stepmonster keeping food from us so we had to steal it to eat if we wanted to eat. maybe eating more times a day or something might work. I gotta check it out cuz she always eats when big dont know.

thanks for helping me
Beau

[onlymedid]

Hey leslie and her pixies thanks. I'll try to ask her questions. I talked to her yesterday and she say she just mad cuz big is making us eat nasty gross vegtables. I like vegtables but the little dont. I just get mad at her cuz she does it when big aint around shes being sneeky. I'll try not to get angry any more.

Yah we got some strange messages about food cuz it got used as punishment all the time. we just wanted to eat so we grabbed the fast and bad stuff cuz we could put it in our pocket and sneek it.

I know I can be mean to little cuz she can be a brat but I'll try not to. I take care of her to but sometimes she just does stuff and dont think. I'll try to be nice.

thanks
Beau