[Jewels]

with some difficulty today, realized that as a system, we find it hard to relate to people who are singletons. while they may sincerely want to know your "mental" status, the rudeness of these people sometimes will threaten to overwhelm those of us who have many presences within. Questions like "how many personalities do you have?" are a serious breach of "political correctness". Not only is it not their business, there is a macabre sense of stupidity. Would I ask a complete stranger "how many heads do you have?" if I see they have more than one? You may think that a stupid question, but it is the same kind of question those who are living with themselves ask to those living with many others. When will they learn that their questions do more harm than good? How much would it take for one of our angry alters to lash out at them and reduce them to a pile of sniffling rubble, wondering where they went wrong? Not much for us, and we are tired of the questions. If you have questions, go look up what the disorder is, and you can find out anything you might ever want to know. DON'T ask something that you are neither prepared for intellectually or emotionally. DON'T expect to get something for nothing. And don't be so crass as to make fun of those who have many. It was to their advantage that they survived in that way. And they are alive today, not wanting to have to answer a bunch of stupid questions that shouldn't be asked in the first place. Don't believe me, but ask everyone else around you. Would you find it intrusive if you were asked something personal about yourself that you would not even tell a friend, only this is an online person? We would, we do, and we do not ask unless first it is offered. Why can't they get a life and leave us alone? All they have to do is let the here and now be the here and now, not the past becoming the present. Can you tell I am peeved?

[cantstopcrying]

(((((((((((theJewelsofEagles)))))))))))))) I am so sorry that people have done this to you. While I am a "singleton", I could never imagine asking or saying the things you have had said to you. Sometimes people don't realize their questions are offensive...and this goes to the ignorance of them. I do wish that people would educate themselves before asking questions that may seem insensitive.

[nowheretorun]

yes you sound peeved to me Jewels and i think its fine to assert yourself and express your inner needs and feelings this way.. i can understand not being heard or feeling unconsidered... i think you've described effectively how frustrating (ok, maddening) it is when our personal spaces are violated unkindly.. my hackles rise in that type situation too... letting others know, in terms that are understandable, as in 'person to person' works for me, without the insulting language.. you're right, we all do matter .... i hope getting your thoughts out here is helping...

[multipixie9]

sadly there are a lot of insensitive people in the world. and they are likely to be the very LAST ones to ever see what you meant in your post, Jewels.

there are some people who's questions show a sincere desire to know us for who we are, a few people anyway, and then there are those others who remind me of runaway bulldozers with no intelligence at the controls!

i'm sorry they are making life any harder than it already is.
hugs.

leslie and her pixies

[silentandscared]

(((((((((((((((((Jewels))))))))))))))))))

some people will never understand or even want to understand and some even take delight in seeing the distress that is caused by these questions that are put with no thought or even concern. That said there are many more who try to arm themselves with know ledge and will ask sensitive questions to increase there understanding, to support and care when things are very bad within the system.
Today l heard something that l not heard before and that was because the conversation was about difficulties with alters some one saying out loud im going this is boring!!!!! Hahahaha boring if only they knew

Jewels just remember for every insenitive stupid questions there will be many many more that are valid and also sensitive
Thank you for all your help and wise wise words
Mandyxx

[iamtwilight]

(((jewels)))

POSS. TRIGGER, BE CAREFUL

that is exactly what ticks me off in real life!!! while we i don't have an official diagnosis, my partner has also agreed on this "disorder". sometimes when he asks something, it really makes me mad. like, when i'm extremely depressed, he might ask me "are you someone else?"

grrrrrrr!!!!! and if there would happen to be another part on the surface, what are they supposed to say? i would imagine they would be really confused at such a question!

but i am very sensitive and often overreact, and he tries his very best to be kind to me.

i'm sorry i don't have any advice, since this ticks me off big time too, but know that i read your post and am here listening


twilight

[beadlady29-old]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((jewels)))))))))))))))))))))))))

bead just wants to let you know that her thinks you have every right to be 'peeved'!.
we also have suffered at the words of so many rude and insensitive people.
bead is sorry that you is also haveing to deal with these kind of people.
guess they are everywhere ( altho ther seems to be an abundance of them
here in MIchigan).
also we wants to let you know what a blessing you are, with so many words of wisdom, kindness and hope!
bead here for you too, pm anytime.......
hang in there and maybe you can try to let some of it just roll off your back
and realize that these kind of people are truely ignorant and actually need to be educated on how to treat all others, including those who may be
different then they are with respect!
bead hears every word!

hang in there,
asending warm fuzies and thoghts filled with peace and dignity your way,

bead