[peaches100]

I am curious how many of you have t's who are willing to hug you? And if so, is it only to the adult YOU, or is it also to child parts?

[serafim_etal]

Our T hugs. Not often, and mostly the littles...occasionally an older one. She always asks first though.

out t will hug us...both our child alter and me...sometimes she ask if we want a hug and sometimes we ask her for one...either way it is okay...and she knows too that on really bad days that she will come and sit next to us on the sofa..

she also knows that we are dissociating really bad that it helps to ground us if she sits next to us and touches us...

[Luce]

Our previous T did hugs. Usually at the end of every session (with permission) and, like Stumpy's T, she'd next to us on the sofa on really bad days. She was a gestalt therapist, and part of her philosophy was that touch was healing. We never wanted to do other body work with her, but I think we did try once (with dismal results).

I don't know if my current T hugs clients or not. We've only seen her a few times, and do not feel any want or need for a hug from her. That might change, I suppose, but I can't imagine it at this stage.

[Kiya]

T does sometimes hug... dunno if it is child or older... t will also sometimes touch the shoulder or back in the lobby or hallway if we're not seeing her that day.
Lately with talk of boundaries, t has not hugged and we are sad. we finally asked for one in an email =)

[multipixie9]

we've been seeing our T for 14 years. she wants to offer hug after each session. she offers but we decide. for many years we did not want to hug and even now sometimes we are feeling creepy and won't hug her. hugs can be creepy sometimes. its our issue, not her.

we are very slowly getting better about hugs.

leslie

[wanttoheal]

My T would be willing and has mentioned she would like to at times, but there is major resistance here. She said once that she was told to basically keep her distance. She didn't take offense and completely understands why. I can freely give and receive hugs from my children but that's pretty much it for the most part.