[Miracle1986]

Today is the 2nd anniversary of my cousin, Michael, being killed in Iraq.
He was a medic with the US Army who was killed by a bomb as he was running to help a fallen comrade.
How unfair is that? He lost his life trying to save someone else's!!!

Today I feel so... for lack of a better word... lost. We were so close and to lose him in such a horrific way is just...

and we need help because all last night I was having night nightmares about him and his death and/or just dreams
about him and when we would wake up remember that he is dead, little Manda would scream, "Mikey!!!!" and start crying
and today she is inconsolable (and I am having a rough day dealing the anniversary too)
Grr... how am I supposed to try and console her when I feel so... lost... myself???

(((((((Manda))))))) ((((((((Little Manda)))))))))

hold each other and cry together. sit with a friend and cry. write about Mickey. Write him a letter telling him how you feel and let little manda write or draw also.
Sometimes there is no consoling, just grieving together.

[Asylum Crew]

Ella

[eskielover]

(((((((manda)))))), (((((((little manda))))))),

Grief is felt by young & old......it is important to allow those feelings out rather than to console or try to make them feel that the feelings aren't necessary. These feelings are important for our complete healing. I know the horrible deaths that are caused by war & the traumatic events surrounding them.

Make sure you are also proud of Michael, Mikey......for it was very honorable & he was serving a very important respected position, helping others in the medical role during the war & that he laid his life on the line to help his comrade. There is nothing fair in war.....no life lost in war is a good thing, but the being proud of the fact that he was willing to put his life on the line for what he believed in (otherwise he wouldn't have been there either since this is now a volunteer military).

It is important to be proud of him for what meant so much to him in his life even though we may not understand that.

Greif goes on for years....especially on the anniversary dates when our mind takes us back to when it happened.

Allow the grief to come & accept it as a necessary for you to handle thinking about what happened. You will be ok.....little Manda will be ok.....it takes time.....give yourselves the time.

Know that you are cared about here,
Debbie

[jeNeTeConnaisPas]

im sorry for your loss, it sounds like you cared deeply for him..

and i have to say, the loss of his life is tragic, yet, that is extremely heroic... i honour his courage sincerely.

i hope you can find peace with this.

you and Mike are in my prayers...

Edgar of TBC