[mrkmyword]

It may be that I haven't had time to check out all postings(which I really doubt I'll do). But I haven't read or seen any Gays or Lesbians talk about their hardships with breakups.

My wife of 4 years and I recently separated. We were together for 15 years and had a lot of hopes and dreams.

That hardest part I am having to deal with, as well as the deeper it puts me into depression is how someone can change the feelings they had for you so quickly.

The person you loved who made you smile, turned you on, was your best friend for so long - is a cold stranger all of a sudden.

My wife and I are were legally married with hopes of having kids. That didn't work out since the options were limited for getting pregnant and then I got sick and we were so overwhelmed that something a long the way just snapped.

I tend to forgive a lot faster, but not forget.
I just don't understand how deep feelings for your 'life partner' can change to the opposite spectrum almost over night.

<sigh>

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((((((mrkmyword))))))))

You're going through an awful time right now and I know you must have so many questions.

When we look at relationships they rarely change overnight; often we stop noticing things because we get caught up with work or a project or something else that keeps us from noticing subtle changes at home.

But when one partner decides they no longer feel the same for the other partner, that person will stand by and wait for their partner to notice how they are feeling, but they rarely do notice until it is too late.

There are lots of gays on this site who are going through relationship issues, breakups and divorces; you will meet them and you will feel supported because you are in the same or a similar situation. But irrespective of your orientation you will receive support from just about everyone; that is what we are here for...

Take care and be well,

Rhiannon

[sugahorse1]

Hang in there and know you are not alone. I've been through breakups on both spectrums (Girls and guys - not that it actually matters) and I know how hard it is. Don't let yourself fall into depression (I let myself get into that trap, and it makes it even hrder to get out.
Acceptance is the first step, once you know that there really is no chance of reconciliation. Surround yourself with happy and supportive people. Keep busy.
I'm so sorry that you have to be going through this - hang in there!