Too much of a good thing?...Family Biz

Being in a family business is difficult and even more so when the office is ever present in the home. The home suffers. My experience?...my Ex was/is always telling me what to do even in the bedroom. Nothing is ever good enough for him.
Here's an example: I tried to attend my daughter's 20th birthday recently at his house. I walked in with a present for my daughter and told him how beautiful the flowers were. He said, "They're okay. I should've planted more."
This is so typical of him. In our business (even tho' now I know it was HIS all along) sales were so important, and when any of us had a good week, he would just say, "It's okay" Never satisfied and the next week added more b/c everything was sold the previous week. Yes, it is good business sense, but the inability to tell someone they did a great job is the issue. The inability to be grateful is the reason for this problem in my opinion, and that is hazardous in my opinion.
I am so relieved to be out of the marriage and out from under his ever pressing thumb.
Here's my question. I am in 2 different relationships at the moment and waiting to see who does what when. I need to be prepared for rejection. I know in my heart that all will work out for the best, but that won't dull the pain when or if I get rejected by someone who I have shared intimate thoughts....Things could turn out very nicely, but just in case I need some counsel during this sensitive time of my life.

It sounds like your ex could have been a perfectionist. If that is the case, nothing is EVER good enough. It had nothing to do with you.

Have you had time to get to know who you are? before you started dating these two men? From what I have read you already expect rejection from at least one of the men, that is why you are dating two, sort of a back-up plan...is this right?

Its okay to take things slow and have healthy boundries in place. You dont have to share your deepest feelings in five or six dates. I feel that sharing this part of you is a gift you give to someone, make sure they are worthy of this "gift."

Good luck and keep posting