[busiemommie22305]

I would love to kill my ex-husband. He has done nothing more then call and complain about the child support and the CDV charge on his record for the past 2 weeks.

I have NO controll in my state and I can't do anything about the CDV charge. I have told him this several times, that these things are out of my hands. BUT HE DOESN'T LISTEN!!

I do believe it's time to make some phone calls to my child support case worker and explain to her what is going on. And maybe call someone that was involved in the CDV case.

[Aunt Donna]

Originally Posted by busiemommie22305

I would love to kill my ex-husband. He has done nothing more then call and complain about the child support and the CDV charge on his record for the past 2 weeks.

I have NO controll in my state and I can't do anything about the CDV charge. I have told him this several times, that these things are out of my hands. BUT HE DOESN'T LISTEN!!

I do believe it's time to make some phone calls to my child support case worker and explain to her what is going on. And maybe call someone that was involved in the CDV case.

Feel free to vent. You don't have any control over the child support or the CDV charge. It is his responsibility to pay child support. A few calls won't hurt.

I haven't been through this personally per say, but my mother has. We are grown now and she would still love to kill him for what he has done.

Venting here is fine just not in front of the kids lol

I have been where you are now and even planned a way of doing it ( I am borderline so don't be shocked lol ), two ways actually looking back I would of been caught as I was the only other person who knew the alarm numbers lmao.

It does get better as they get the message and back off.

[Perna]

Just tell him if he doesn't stop calling you, complaining you'll see if you can add to his woes by charging him with a 61-8-16, "Obscene, anonymous, harassing, repeated and threatening telephone calls"

http://www.womenslaw.org/statutes_de...75#statute-top

[busiemommie22305]

Yeah, I thought about telling him that if he doesn't stop I was going to file a harassment charge, then I looked up the legal defination of harassment and it said that it had to be threatening. Which he's not doing. So I don't know if that will work.

My child support case worker was nice enough to try to call him. I just hope it helps. Now if I can fins someone that will explain that it was the State the file the charge, I was just the key witness. Any one wanna play cop and make a phone call for me? I won't report you as pretending to be a real cop if you're not.

Originally Posted by Perna

Just tell him if he doesn't stop calling you, complaining you'll see if you can add to his woes by charging him with a 61-8-16, "Obscene, anonymous, harassing, repeated and threatening telephone calls"

http://www.womenslaw.org/statutes_de...75#statute-top

[Aunt Donna]

My husband is a sheriff's deputy but in the state of Louisiana. LOL

Call the county attorney's office and ask if the prosecuting attorney can help you.

[bipolarbearV]

If you have a divorce lawyer you could have him write him. Or possibly a protection order? Or calling the police whenever he comes over? Or just putting his call on voice mail making him explain only what he needs and you only returning his calls on topic only! Try to explain to him that you are no longer married and therefore you do not have to listen to his sob stories (just hang up) And of course, mention that Child S. is not for you but for the kids and keeping a home, car, food and clothing on children that he sired and that you both LEGALLY agreed to care for in your marriage vows.
It is his and your ****legal obligation*** and if he truly loves his kids he should't complain so much . Sorry to be so blunt.

Ok, but don't kill him!! Mame and Destroy? Yes Kill No!

[Champagne]

Why are you listening to a cry baby and a whiney whingeing EX?

Yes he is your children's dad but do you have to listen to the berating bellowing sick foghorn? Get a picture of a foghorn and stick it near the phone just to remind you, why you don't want to listen to him.

Can't he talk to his Anger management THERAPIST?

Maybe you should tell him to take out the video "Anger management" and learn something.

There is a special button on the mobile phone.. it is a red icon of a phone.. it means hang up or STOP LISTENING. If you have a landline phone, change your phone to a visual display number and hang up or delete the message when you recognize the number.

Direct him to the Desperate Housewives series, and ask him to take note... He could probably land a role because of his over reeeeeee-acting.

"Excuse me (his name and wait until there is silence on the other end) ..... Are you yelling on the telephone? I don't listen to yelling people on the telephone," and hang up.

"You always did have a problem with expenses and budgeting" and hang up.

"Your children love you and, I thank you for the financial investment, you are placing on their future education, and health care and wedding expenses (if you have daughters)," and hang up. Maybe send this one on a card with his children's faces on the front. Every Easter, Christmas, father's day and the children's birthdays and his birthday.

"I have a friend that makes voodoo dolls, for cry babies. I am considering having one made in your image," and hang up.

He just wants to continue the words/sword fight and exercise his CONTROL over your LISTENING EAR. The last bastion of his war tactics.... BIG NOISE.

And he knows HOW to press your pressure buttons.

VENT AWAY WITH US. IT IS GOOD FOR YOU.

Take a deep breath and say "Wow. What an immature man. I am so glad I am no longer living with him."

Go have that lovely cup of tea or hot chocolate and do something lovely with your children.

"Now where is that doll again?" Hee Hee Hee.

[bipolarbearV]

Champagne, Your reply seems very bitter. You must be really hurting. I've been there and I do understand, but by doing almost all of your specicfic suggestions may just make either her life, her divorce or getting back together more difficult as they could make him more mad. Please read my and the other posts again. They say almost the same thing--like using Voice Mail. But if she puts a rant and rave on the message it might anger him enough to go back home and confront and scare her. Any bitter actions could also be used against her in a divorce. Please consider seeing a T and showing them this and any other post. I hope you can stop hurting very soon. I know you were trying to help.

bipolarbearV

Look for the Laughter!

busiemommie22305, have your attorney write his attorney to explain what is going on and ask that his client stop this behavior.

[busiemommie22305]

Loved the voodoo doll line. But yeah, I have thought a lot about it, and have stopped answering the phone when he calls. In fact he has "No ring" as his personal ringtone on my cell phone. My phone might still tell me "Call from *******" but that is all it will say.

I have tired the protective order, but the "proof" I have of his violent history are "too old" for the court to go by and they see no immdiate threat. I'm like ok, then don't ***** when you have to clean up his body because he shows up because I know plenty of people that are willing to shoot him if I don't beat him to death first. (Guess I should hide my black belt certificates?)

The idea about the picture with the kid and what the money is goinig to is a great idea. But I might take the cheaper way and e-mail it to him, along with a copy of the police reports when he complians about the CDV charges.

And even if I don't kill him, beating the **** out of him would feel pretty good. Oh, and I could keep him strung from a tree to beat on when I have a bad day and just want something to hit. (Are my horns showing?)

Originally Posted by Champagne

Why are you listening to a cry baby and a whiney whingeing EX?

Yes he is your children's dad but do you have to listen to the berating bellowing sick foghorn? Get a picture of a foghorn and stick it near the phone just to remind you, why you don't want to listen to him.

Can't he talk to his Anger management THERAPIST?

Maybe you should tell him to take out the video "Anger management" and learn something.

There is a special button on the mobile phone.. it is a red icon of a phone.. it means hang up or STOP LISTENING. If you have a landline phone, change your phone to a visual display number and hang up or delete the message when you recognize the number.

Direct him to the Desperate Housewives series, and ask him to take note... He could probably land a role because of his over reeeeeee-acting.

"Excuse me (his name and wait until there is silence on the other end) ..... Are you yelling on the telephone? I don't listen to yelling people on the telephone," and hang up.

"You always did have a problem with expenses and budgeting" and hang up.

"Your children love you and, I thank you for the financial investment, you are placing on their future education, and health care and wedding expenses (if you have daughters)," and hang up. Maybe send this one on a card with his children's faces on the front. Every Easter, Christmas, father's day and the children's birthdays and his birthday.

"I have a friend that makes voodoo dolls, for cry babies. I am considering having one made in your image," and hang up.

He just wants to continue the words/sword fight and exercise his CONTROL over your LISTENING EAR. The last bastion of his war tactics.... BIG NOISE.

And he knows HOW to press your pressure buttons.

VENT AWAY WITH US. IT IS GOOD FOR YOU.

Take a deep breath and say "Wow. What an immature man. I am so glad I am no longer living with him."

Go have that lovely cup of tea or hot chocolate and do something lovely with your children.

"Now where is that doll again?" Hee Hee Hee.

[busiemommie22305]

OMG I'm looney. The first time I read your post I thought "What?" but I get it now. I'm slow sometimes.

Last I talked to my ex, he said that he now has a way of sending me money for child support, but he will also look into his rights to our son. I'm like fine whatever, enjoy the hunt when you don't know where to look.
But I'm still standing my ground on the whole, you wanna see our son, stop by the courthouse first.
And if he shows up here I'll lock the house down and call the cops and have previous police reports in my hand when they get here. And if the cops don't take care of it, I have plenty of people that are willing to take care of him for me (gotta love being a hillbilly). Therefore he will be taken care of one way or another. And if the cops know who some of these people are that are willing to take care of my ex, they will take care of him for HIS safety.
My only worry is, what would all this do to our son. Guess if something goes down, he'll be the next one in therapy. But maybe I can talk him into going into his room and playing with his toys until it's safe.

As for the whole attoreny things, we didn't have councel for out divorce. But I'm in school to become a paralegal, so I know a little more about the law, especially my state's law, then he does. I also know how to research it to find what I need. I do believe I have the upper hand in this.

But thanks everyone for your advise. I'll take more from anyone else if they have any.

Originally Posted by faylowell

My husband is a sheriff's deputy but in the state of Louisiana. LOL

[Rhiannonsmoon]

It sounds like he has more to worry about violently from you than you him...I don't get this violence thing, why is it that people want to hurt each other so much physically? what has this world turned into