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Oct 18, 2010, 10:00 PM
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If I told my husband, who's been unemployed for the last two and a half years, and only put in about 10 job apps in the area:
"Find a job in 30 days, whatever it is, or even the promise of a job, or you're going to be living with your mom." I've begged and pleaded, but he's "too busy" with his online flight simulator, his radio controlled helis, driving 45 minutes to see his mom, etc etc etc. Any excuse to get out of job hunting. Just the other day in the grocery, he asked me if I would pay his car insurance (two months behind) and his cell phone bill (3 months behind.) I'm the only income in our household, and I just don't make enough money for that. We're struggling to decide which bills to pay each month just to keep going, and I'm planning cheap, fattening foods to eat, just so we can have money for gas, groceries, etc. I'm at my wit's end. His mom doesn't help matters at all... she keeps begging him to come visit her, knowing full well that he doesn't have the gas, and SHOULD be either helping me out at home, or job hunting, but he's too busy kissing her ***** to help me out. I'm totally at a loss. I'm sorry for such a round-about rant.
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Oct 18, 2010, 11:01 PM
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You would be a GOOD wife! He needs a push to stand on his own two feet. Don't let him become dependent on you anymore.
My Mom always says, they can't walk all over you unless you lay down first.
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Oct 18, 2010, 11:32 PM
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Thanks, Cindy
 I've already made him do 2 applications this past weekend, so at least I know he's doing some job hunting in my presence. I'm just so done with him getting upset at me because we can't afford to do a lot of things, so when we do things, it's cheap or free things, like going to the Art Museum, or to the local parks. He would rather go to places like Best Buy, the Hobby Store, and spend money, but I just can't afford it. Now, if he wants to go spend $ on video games and his radio controlled hobby, he can get a job. But he makes me feel like an awful person for it.
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A good friend once told me: All the things that you are doing for others DO NOT GO IN VAIN, and it may seem that you are not getting a return, but you are, maybe not now, but God never lets any good deed go unrewarded. "How can I feel abandoned, even when the world surrounds me; How can I bite the hand that feeds the strangers all around me; How can I know so many; never really knowing anyone; If I seem superhuman I have been Misunderstood." |
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Oct 18, 2010, 11:45 PM
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He is obviously confused as to whether you are a mother or wife. He has seemingly retreated to his boyhood so he may play with his toys. Under distress this happens with some people
He is in a state of concern and so is turning to what he feels at most comfort with most safety with. By all means urge him on and support him into working. It is not right that you should have this stress all alone You are taking steps and I truly hope things change for you, and by the way no you would not be the worst wife in the world for trying to change things Morgana
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