[hatteras duck]

I have been seperated from my husband now for 13 months. I can now file for divorce. I have talked with several attorneys and just can't make a decision to get the paperwork filed. I hate the idea of divorce but after living in an abusive marriage for 17 years, I am over it!

This is not the first time I have left. The last time was for 6 months. I have no intention on going back. I now have "me" again, which I lost. But I just can't give myself that push to go ahead and get this done and over with.

It needs to be done. I have 3 children at home with me. He has not given me any financial support what-so-ever. Says he can't afford to, but then goes out and buys a souped up camero and pays for it with cash.

Financial abuse is part of it, emotional, sexual, physical. No, I am not wealthy, just barely making it pay check to pay check. We have no "extras". Not even a car at this time. Haven't had one in a year. It is the shop, but can't afford to pay the guy for fixing it.

I don't know why I can't make that final decision. Please help give me that push. Thanks

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Dear Duck,

Hello, I think you still have the fear of him there. I think too that you believe this and that you need a little support to prove that is what it is so that you can get over that final hurdle.

You are more than capable and the one thing you need to do is make sure that if he claims he can't afford it then you have the camero seized and sold to give you at least some money.

Please don't be afraid any more; he thinks he has you bluffed and that he can just scare you out of any claim. Show him you are not a fool and you are not afraid of him any more.

Hugs of support

[hatteras duck]

wow. Thanks. I have been thinking about this today. I am still scared of him. I think I can do this now. Thank you!

[jenkins09]

You can do it.