[packers rock]

My wife told me that she is not sure she wants to be married anymore. We have only been married about 15 months, but it still hurts. I recently adopted her daughter and that has been an issue as well. Our daughter misses what she used to have with just her mom and her for 7 years before I came into the picture. I feel like she manipulates her mom to drive us apart in many ways. Last night my wife told me that she needs to start acting in the best interest of her daughter. She also said things like, "I don't feel challenged by you" and she told me that she feels like she is getting younger and I am getting older. My wife admitted that she is very selfish and I have seen that more and more over the past few months. But I still love her and don't want to lose her. I just hate this feeling of walking on eggshells and not being able to be myself now.

Ooooohhhhh hunnny........Owwwie......In the best interest of her daughter is NOT giving her a power modem to a mothers marriage.This should be separate.I think if you believe she manipulates her mum in this...she may well be...but realize that it is mums responsibility to give daughter that power or to not allow it."Don't feel challenged by you?"Why is marriage so GD last nights meal?So discardable?Makes me sad.Younger/older....uggghhhhh....She IS selfish...and you shouldn't have to walk on egg-shells.I am sooo very sorry you are being hurt.I sooo wish I had good advice.I feel helpless to help.
Though I hear your pain....this may be a release from a bond which was doomed and an opportunity to create a life worth enjoying.We can't see the future...but,though you feel this love...it may be a blessing in disguise.Do try to reflect and uncover what would have been indicators w/in her persona that this would occur?(((((Hugggs))))....Yes,I did edit this post.

[Elana05]

Is there any way you both could get to a couples therapist? I have found it very helpful.