[Arkyn]

I'm sure it is - someone tell me this a terrible idea.

My wife's lover lives 1000 miles away, so I usually don't have to worry about him. In fact, my wife doesn't even know that I know, and I plan on keeping it that way as long as I can.

But - she'll be visiting, with our children, that area for two weeks in July...

I _never_ go with her - I just can't get all the time of from work.

But I might have to do a client visit there...except that I still can't stretch it out for more than a day or two.

What about suggesting that we add in the lover (who is known to me - he's an old friend of the wife's) as the third in a threesome?

That's sick and stupid, right?

[bebop]

are you and she divorced?

[Arkyn]

No- not divorced. Have talked seperation (neither of of says that we want that) and divorce (same) and she doesn't know that I know about her lover. We are going to counciling, but it appears to me that she doesn't really care about the relationship - she seems content to let it fall into a shell of lovelessness.

[wildbill]

i think the threesome would hurt you more than anyone then her...who knows about the lover....not a professional just my thoughts....

[OurLadysTears]

That is assuming that they would want the same. For all you know, your wife may be having thoughts of leaving you for him. A rough but likely idea. It is a matter of choice between the three of you. I suggest you sit down and think about how such a situation would affect you and your marriage. It could make or break it. It is a very risky situation in my opinion, causing a lot of feelings to change.

[ladygaga1975]

may be you are inactive with her that she looked for another one to compensate the missing . try to compensate her with love , taking her on a vacation or just propse to accop[many her while she is two weeks in that area .