[krissy702001]

I have been divorced for 2 1/2 years. I was married for 20 years. I have depression and anxiety that preceded the divorce. I take 60 mg of celexa daily. I also take 1-2 ativan per day for anxiety. I am started back to therapy 3 weeks ago, but may have to quit due to my insurance.

I am still crying and an emotional wreck. My ex has remarried and has 3 step kids. We have a dtr in college. I just feel like good part of my life is over. I can get used to being alone, but I have severe social anxiety that is preventing me from not being alone. I know it makes no logical sense. How do I redefine my life from being a mom and wife to now being a single person?

I also am obsessed with checking up on my ex through fb and twitter. I know it does do me any good and is inappropriate. I can stop for about a week, but then I just feel like I have to do it and know what is going on with him. I feel so ashamed of this behavior.

Thanks for letting me get this out. Any suggestions would be helpful.

[Leed]

Hi dear Krissy ~ I know how awful you must feel. First I don't think your medication is working very.well. I would talk to my doctor SOON and tell him how you're feeling, and ask him what he thinks should be done about it.

Secondly, ask for a referral to a GOOD therapist. I think it's time to talk to someone about this. You shouldn't be checking up on him, or "kind of" stalking him. LOL So get in to see a therapist -- this does NOT mean that you're crazy by any sense of the imagination. Sometimes people just need a therapist. In fact it's my opinion that every person on earth should see a therapist at least ONCE in their lifetime. LOL

I wish you the very best Krissy. I hope things work out for you, and that the rest of your life is just WONDERFUL. God bless and take care. Will you do something for me? Will you update me when you start to feel better? Hugs, Lee

[krissy702001]

Thank you, Lee. I am going to take your advice and get my meds adjusted. I appreciate your kinds words and support.

[CandleGlow]

Hi Krissy
Sorry you are having difficulty in adjusting and moving forward. Maybe if you get your meds reviewed or adjusted, and start to feel better in yourself, you will be able to rebuild your life, as a single person.
My divorce was finalised just last month, so am going through adjustment myself. I have looked at his fb page, once - I will not do it again, for my sake! He is with someone else already
Try to concentrate on you, you will re find who you are
Sending warm wishes ....

[krissy702001]

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it.

Krissy

[eskielover]

You need to find out who YOU are.....find things that you are interested in doing....any crafts you have always wanted to do or things like riding horses or volunteering at a place you have always had an interest in getting involved with.

I know after I just left my husband & moved 2100 miles away from him. it was such a wonderful feeling standing in my kitchen with the food I liked to eat & not have to worry if it was something he liked the flavor of & I would just be who I was for the first time in 33 years....it was the best feeling I had ever had.....but the negative history in our marriage was probably the fest freedom feeling of all....NO FIGHTING....no buttons being pushed.......I could actually hear my own thoughts for a change & I could think again something I hadn't been able to do for so many years except for the focus on my career which was my only escape from my marriage but that ended years before in 1994......so life those last years was pretty much like living in hell even though he couldn't understand how I saw it that way.

Didn't realize until a few weeks ago that all those years I was living with a very passive agressive person in so many ways....it was such a relief to be away from that insane life that the peacefulness that came was so refreshing & wonderful......that freedom allowed my mind to grow & to see different possibilities that I had never seen before in my life....it takes time to get those thoughts into action....but you will get there.