[ontherighttrack?]

I have been divorced for a year and seperated for 2 from my high school sweetheart. We were together 17 years, married for 11 years. We have two wonderful children. I still dont know if it was the right thing to do?? We get along good for the most part. When he was wanting to try to work on things I was angry and when I wanted to work on things he wasnt ready. The timing didnt seem to match and ended in divorce. Any suggestions or comments are welcome.

[Leed]

I'm not sure what to comment on. It's over and done with, right?

Are you asking if there's any chance that you can get back together? That's something that the two of you can only know.

Perhaps you get along better by being apart than you do together. Is that what you're finding? Are you better "friends" than you are husband and wife? Did you fight alot when you were married?

Does he seem to regret the divorce? Has he said anything about wishing you two were still together?

Perhaps you two should sit down and have a talk about the possibility of trying it again. Of course you'd need counseling before even trying to do it again. See what he says.

I wish you the very best. Let us know what happens. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

Move on. Don't rehash. This is YOUR time to find out what you want. It was for the best. just give it some time so you can see the bigger picture. I get a long ok with my ex, but I am not attracted to him. we are amicable towards each other because of kids. But I really could care less about his personal life, and vice versa. Communicate on an as needed basis, and that will help a lot.

You have so much going for you. You have to let go and start changing those things about you that you want/need to. Get to know new people, take up a new hobby.

We usually see past relationships how we wanted them to be. not how they actually are. especially if you think the other person is living the high life and their grass is greener - which it is not.

So let go. Greater things are ahead for you, but you have to go after them, and it sounds like this relationship is not it.

All the best to you.

[Bobbarita]

Frenetic47 (Post #3) echoes the advice of my shrink and my therapist. I think it is correct, and should I feel myself backsliding during this terrible divorce I'm going to read and re-read Post #3!