[Piraeus]

When I was married, she was so smart *** and down right mean at times.
Now that we are divorced, she is nice to me. We have a child together. I guess
she just wants to be good to me because of our daughter. I get to have her for a whole month in the summer.I can't wait to see her again.

Anyways, I don't understand how my ex-wife can be so nice now that we are divorced. Anyone else experienced this. Maybe some feedback would help.

Hi Piraeus. My guess is your relationship was extremely stressful when you were together. For whatever reason (selfish for sure) she chose you to be mean to. I don't know about your situation when you were married. All I know is my husband used the excuse that I was to blame for his being mean. And I mean MEAN. But a person can only change themselves. He chose not to and I am left in the aftermath wondering what I did to deserve it. Nothing. I am just guessing your wife decided to move on and is kinder because she is happy outside of your relationship with you.
I'm happy to hear you get to see your daughter for a month! And yes for the sake of your daughterthank goodness she has changed. Best wishes to, Kelly

[Piraeus]

Thanks Kelly. You are right. She has moved on. She has a new bf, and is getting married again. I'm glad she is happy.When she found out I was schizophrenic, she wanted a divorce. Her excuse was that she was scared of me. I never did anything to hurt anyone. I am a kind and loving person.Oh well. She doesn't know what she is missing.

That was very mean of her to leave you because she "thought" you might do something. I'm so sorry she treated you that way. Just because we have mental health issues doesn't mean we arent kind and loving. You obviously are because you are happy for her. I'm not sure I could ever say the same about my ex because rright now I feel he deserves to suffer because of the misery I am in.

[Unmotivatable]

That's right Piraeus, she's the one that losses out!! I'm happy for you that you get to keep your daughter for a month!! You will have a blast!! How old is your daughter?

[Piraeus]

Originally Posted by Unmotivatable

That's right Piraeus, she's the one that losses out!! I'm happy for you that you get to keep your daughter for a month!! You will have a blast!! How old is your daughter?

She is 14. I love having her with me. I always get so depressed when she leaves. One more thing I can say about my ex is, she sends me pictures of my daughter, and copies of her report card from school.

[LishaXYZ]

Originally Posted by Piraeus

She is 14. I love having her with me. I always get so depressed when she leaves. One more thing I can say about my ex is, she sends me pictures of my daughter, and copies of her report card from school.

Hi Praeus. I couldn't find the beginning of your post describing your relationship with your ex. Do you have one? Do you miss your ex? Also, you said she left you after finding out you were schizophrenic. I'm wondering how long you were married and what other issues were prevalent?

Without the stress of having to live with you, she has room to be friendly and nice. Regardless of what ever the reasons were that you didn't get alone or why she was mean to you, the burden of the marriage is gone.

My ex was a control freak and kind of mean too but she's been pretty good since then.

[Piraeus]

Originally Posted by LishaXYZ

Hi Praeus. I couldn't find the beginning of your post describing your relationship with your ex. Do you have one? Do you miss your ex? Also, you said she left you after finding out you were schizophrenic. I'm wondering how long you were married and what other issues were prevalent?

I do miss her, but I am getting over that. She kicked me out when she found out I was schizophrenic. We were married for 9 yrs. I don't think there were any other issues. Except she had problems with anger.

[hamster-bamster]

I think the easiest/simplest thing to do is to enjoy her current disposition without overanalyzing its causes.