[oldlife_disrupted]

Hello again, it probably seems like I can't stop talking about this and you're right I can't. The reason is that we're telling the kids in 3 days and she moves out in 2 weeks. I'm obsessed and emotionally overloaded as I approach the finish line of this particular leg of the separation process.

The thing is that I'm the kind of guy who obsesses and needs to learn about things that bother me. I'm desperately looking for a book specifically about my situation if it exists.

I live with a woman who had a very hard life and fell into a type of depression where she can't handle her life anymore, she needs to escape and "see what happens".

She says she still loves me (but not as a husband anymore, she can't handle that) and can barely handle being a mother. She's not angry at me, she doesn't hate me, I trust her when she says she hasn't cheated on me, our marital "problems" were workable within the marriage except that she needs to go.

Maybe she'll find that a cooling off period and her therapy sessions will help, maybe she'll find that this is the life and never come back. It's completely out of my control.

I'm seeing a therapist but I need to learn from others' experiences and knowledge of this specific experience.

Everything I find is about working through adultery or learning to love each other again. That's got nothing to do with me.

Do you guys know of any resources I can use?

[unaluna]

Remember the movie Kramer vs Kramer? You could start looking there.

[oldlife_disrupted]

Never heard of it, I'll look it up.

[4D2Long]

She is probably having an emotionally charged online experience....I have seen this many times...husband is emotionally vacant...wife stumbles onto a chat sight...there is a loser in the chat room sitting unshaven with corn chips in his beard...been in the room for days just looking for the right woman to fall in his lair....he says all the things you don't say...how does he know what you don't say? Because he was emotionally bankrupt with his real life women...right before he lost them...so he knows exactly what to say......

Just unplug the computer and it will go away.....