[Bubba ump]

Hi my wife left me three weeks ago and went to her sisters and filled a protection order on me and has started to text and talk to me on the phone sayi g she wants to get back together. But her mom and sister said that
They would take our kids if she came home now she has told e for five days now that she wants me to come get her and the kids and just leave the state and be a happy family agine and that her family is why she left in the first place but I think she got caught talking to me and has not text or. Called in 24hrs and she is going to the court house in the morning to drop the protection order and I was supposed to meet with her afterwards to pick her and the kids up to leave but don't know now cause I haven't talked to her she did tell a friend that she was still dropping the order tomorrow and she just wanted people to leave her alone she lives with her sister and I believe that her sister is keeping us apart what should I do I love them so much

[oldlife_disrupted]

That's a very stressful situation, I'm sorry to hear about that.if the family is this involved and taking these actions, I have to assume they're acting on info they were given and they probably got it from her.

I don't know any of you, but it sounds to me like she told them something that made them protective and she might be lying to you about wanting them to leave her alone.

If you're innocent of anything that would make her that scared, you have to go to court and clear up the situation. If you're not, you need to leave her alone get treatment before you can try to reconcile a family life.

Not judging, I don't know you but that's what it sounds like to me a miilion miles away on the internet.

[antimonos]

It does sound like a stressful situation. Is there anyway you can have some mediation between her, her family and yourself?

Originally Posted by oldlife_disrupted

That's a very stressful situation, I'm sorry to hear about that.if the family is this involved and taking these actions, I have to assume they're acting on info they were given and they probably got it from her.

I don't know any of you, but it sounds to me like she told them something that made them protective and she might be lying to you about wanting them to leave her alone.

If you're innocent of anything that would make her that scared, you have to go to court and clear up the situation. If you're not, you need to leave her alone get treatment before you can try to reconcile a family life.

Not judging, I don't know you but that's what it sounds like to me a miilion miles away on the internet.

Agree with this. i feel like there is information you've left out and it's like you've placed the ball in her court with regards to the protection order. I have been married 2x before and even as bad as those marriages got, if there was ever a protection order, I don't think typically women do that without any reason so it makes me ask why was it she left, what was the protection order from and what did you do about it to fix the situation?

Her family is keeping you apart for reasons related to protecting your wife from you. Regardless of your part in this, you have to see their side of things and realize they are just being family. Work it out with your wife and don't create animosity toward them because of this.

Even in the slim chance that the protection order was based on nothing solid, the fact is if any marriage gets to this point, something is very wrong. Giving you the benefit of the doubt, there are still things that obviously need to be resolved and It's hard for me to see you doing anything about it, as you've not mentioned that. Take the responsibility off your wife to just drop the order and do something proactively on your part. Without knowing all the details I can't say waht you need to do... but I'm sure if you really soul search you'll figure it out.

good luck to you.

[LostNAngry]

I don't have any advise to give you as I am lost in my own circle of mental storms but I want you to know that you are a valuable person and that you should be respected. I am sorry and I cant imagine the pain you are going through- just know that we are all here for you even if we don't have the perfect words or solutions. Good luck to you.

[4D2Long]

If her family has intervened to that extent, then that tells me that they have witnessed things that do not sit well with them...maybe you don't feel it is serious, but magistrates to not pass out protective orders like candy....there has to be some evidence of value....your wife saw fit to get the paperwork generated, therefore, she has concerns...I know more than anyone how people use the system for vengeful anger, but we cannot assume that is always the case..

If she is a grown woman, of normal maturation, her sister is not holding her against her will....doubtful that she ran there for the fun of it...you need to block her phone number, leave her alone...go answer the courts questions at due time and give some respect to the system that daily keeps many men and women safe from abusive spouses.....do not encourage her to drop the order...allow it to run the course...if you are innocent, then you get to provide details of that....

If she drops it...she will likely try to get another and this becomes a game..if you truly know that this is her game, then you need to show her that the order is a serious issue..it will forever be associated with your name now in LE....you need it to play through in order to get a disposition.....