[disappointed]

My husband is a serial cheater. He cheated on his first marriage for 17 years and now in ours. Both times with random women and both times with the same mistress. He not only had a sexual affair but a LOVE affair. Asked the mistress to marry him etc. Now that he is caught he has begged me not to break up the family. FOR ME not to break up the family?
I still believe he is and will cheat going forward.
I dont even know if I want access to his emails and passwords because I dont think I even want to work this out
Financially is the only reason Im still here and he is still in the house
My children are the other reason
Working it out is not realistic not because I dont think he's capable, because he's NOT but because the extent of what I know is DEEP. I dont think I can ever look at him the same.
SO WHAT AM I WAITING FOR?
Im stuck in fear, in worry and my children.

Anyone here stay for all the wrong reasons? kids, Money, stability?

Can we just live undre the same roof and co exist as friends? Is that possible or realistic?

The cheating is impossiple to forget or get passed.

[oldlife_disrupted]

If you can't trust him to remain faithful to you, can you trust him to continue supporting you financially?

Can he be trusted with a reduced level of stability you'd stick around for? And if he could, are you able to live with him with that re-defined relationship where he supports you in exchange for keeping up appearances?

[4D2Long]

Originally Posted by disappointed

My husband is a serial cheater. He cheated on his first marriage for 17 years and now in ours. Both times with random women and both times with the same mistress. He not only had a sexual affair but a LOVE affair. Asked the mistress to marry him etc. Now that he is caught he has begged me not to break up the family. FOR ME not to break up the family?
I still believe he is and will cheat going forward.
I dont even know if I want access to his emails and passwords because I dont think I even want to work this out
Financially is the only reason Im still here and he is still in the house
My children are the other reason
Working it out is not realistic not because I dont think he's capable, because he's NOT but because the extent of what I know is DEEP. I dont think I can ever look at him the same.
SO WHAT AM I WAITING FOR?
Im stuck in fear, in worry and my children.

Anyone here stay for all the wrong reasons? kids, Money, stability?

Can we just live undre the same roof and co exist as friends? Is that possible or realistic?

The cheating is impossiple to forget or get passed.

i

The answer is NO... you cannot stay with a serial cheater in a home just for show....marriage is not a floral arrangement......what women have to worry about these days is ending up on The Nancy Grace show as a missing wife...where did she go they ask? Where could she be? And they show the worst photo you ever took in your life...with a cut out of your husband because as it turns out...he is the prime SUSPECT!

What happens when you stay in this "arrangement"...it gives the cheater time to formulate ways to continue their philandering....without disrupting finances and property....let me say this...if you decide to stay....get rid of your freezer chest....remove all oil drums and large suitcases or trunks from your property.....throw away all sharp objects, including nail files...if Hubz inquires why he has to cut steak with a plastic knife, tell him you suddenly developed a nickel allergy...and coincidentally, all the knives had nickel in them...why not lie for a change? They have made it a habit...so now you have fun with lying....