[ChattyKathy20]

My current boyfriend is iniating contact with my ex husband. They are having lengthy conversations without my being included or knowledge of. I would be able to understand if the divorce (5yrs ago) was amicable; but this guy was a nightmare! I do have two children with my ex and so we communicate (minimally) due to them. However, in no way shape or form do I want to befriend the ex. I feel as though my boyfriend has crossed a line.

Ironically my last boyfriend did the same thing with the ex husband as well (after I had broke it off).

Am I missing something here? Exes are exes for a reason. After everything with both were aware of and witness... I am feeling betrayed.

Too weird for me! If you have any insights or comments, please feel free to share.

[healingme4me]

Have you spoken with your bf, and told him, you feel he is crossing a line, right there?

I know you are asking, as am I, why two bf's would do this to you! What's to gain?

I hope your current bf, can respect and abide by your wishes, and gives you a good explanation!

Originally Posted by ChattyKathy20

My current boyfriend is iniating contact with my ex husband. They are having lengthy conversations without my being included or knowledge of. I would be able to understand if the divorce (5yrs ago) was amicable; but this guy was a nightmare! I do have two children with my ex and so we communicate (minimally) due to them. However, in no way shape or form do I want to befriend the ex. I feel as though my boyfriend has crossed a line.

Ironically my last boyfriend did the same thing with the ex husband as well (after I had broke it off).

Am I missing something here? Exes are exes for a reason. After everything with both were aware of and witness... I am feeling betrayed.

Too weird for me! If you have any insights or comments, please feel free to share.

[Winger77]

I agree with you, your bf should bd "on your side", especially if he knows you had a hard time with your ex. I would feel betrayed in that situation as well.

I agree with h4me, talk to your bf and tell him that you feel uncomfortable about it.

[oldlife_disrupted]

Maybe your ex is charismatic enough to befriend your current boyfriends. His motives are a complete mystery to me...maybe find out who's in the house with his kids, manipulate them into a bad relationship with you, who knows.

I can def see their interest in getting to know him. They need to know if you make a crazy ex but beyond that, I don't think it's appropriate either.