[anneo59]

narcissm, which happens to the best of us, I suppose. I think of it as a coping mechanism for what is going on in our lives. But I can tell he's been speaking with various people, perhaps even legal counsel. I told him the other nite, I don't care, even though I do desperately, tho I shouldn't, he's put up with a lot, and gotten myself in a bad place where I'm really dependent on him . Was thinking for me and for others I know, even if he doesn't leave and we are reasonably happy, def time for plans A,B, C, for coping, surviving, and being happy. I just didn't see it before!

[gayleggg]

Sounds like you have openned your eyes. Now all you have to do is start to make those plans. good luck.

[healingme4me]

My gut reaction, is a snarky remark. So, he is now the one diagnosing you? Aren't you dealing enough with working through things, knowing you have bi-polar, and now, a husband that has declared you a narcissist.

You can only keep doing the best that you can, to be the person that you are, and plans a,b & c in learning to cope and survive and be happy, sound like good enough plans to anyone.

Takes two to tango, you sound like you are taking steps to own your half of the ups and downs of your relationship, other than 'labelling' you, which sounds like blame placing, what measures is he taking to uphold his half?

[anneo59]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

My gut reaction, is a snarky remark. So, he is now the one diagnosing you? Aren't you dealing enough with working through things, knowing you have bi-polar, and now, a husband that has declared you a narcissist.

You can only keep doing the best that you can, to be the person that you are, and plans a,b & c in learning to cope and survive and be happy, sound like good enough plans to anyone.

Takes two to tango, you sound like you are taking steps to own your half of the ups and downs of your relationship, other than 'labelling' you, which sounds like blame placing, what measures is he taking to uphold his half?

I confronted him with this, recently, and it appeared to open his eyes somewhat, and he is doing better, at this time!!!! Thankx!!!!!