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Oct 01, 2014, 05:01 AM
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I finally got my decree absolute in may and I have to say it made me extremely happy. I split with my ex husband 2 years ago and its was relatively easy. At the time I thought our relationship had run its course and that was it. When he left I found out a lot of things that were going on and he was lying to me so much. Within 4 weeks of him leaving he was living with someone else and he just turned into a total idiot.
He always let our daughter down, didn't pay any maintenance (he still doesn't) and became a really horrible person. I always managed to stay really calm because I felt like the trouble he always caused had gone and I felt quite free. He's lied constantly to both me and my daughter over this time and now my 6yo doesn't want to see him. I wanted to add my surname to end of her surname to make it double barreled and he's refusing. Even though he doesn't see her, doesn't pay for her, he didn't even get her anything for her birthday, and this is where my problems are arising because my depression and anxiety are going through the floor. The time since he left has been so trouble free, and there is no doubt in my mind that I made the right decision. The first few days were hard and I wondered if I was doing the right thing but I absolutely was. Its a massive step to take, and it can be stressful and upsetting, but you will be OK. |
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Oct 01, 2014, 11:42 AM
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I'm glad that you are doing well on your own. It is sad that so many men don't want to be part of their children's lives.
You might want to think about if the name change is worth the court fight, that would be necessary without his consent. And unfortunately his paying/visiting/caring for his child doesn't count in this sort of thing.
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Oct 03, 2014, 10:26 PM
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Welcome to PC, EvaLuna.
How's your daughter handling the abandonment by her father? It's a struggle as a parent, to watch children emotionally harmed by the other parent. I noticed your new member intro, of course it's taking its toll on you. What are the legal repercussions, where you live, for deadbeat parents? Where I am, it's punishable by jail time. 
Last edited by healingme4me; Oct 03, 2014 at 10:48 PM. |
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