[Deweycox79]

I'm 36, my wife just turned 40. We've been married almost 6 yrs and been together 11 yrs. Very recently my wife left because she says she doesn't love me anymore. She's told me she has a crush on a younger coworker but nothing has happen between them. She's unwilling to try to get counseling with me, or even talk about our marriage. I'm very hurt and confused and love my wife very much. She says she needs to "decompress". And gets very angry when I call or text. She also claims I've done nothing wrong. I'm so confused and don't know what direction to go. I want to try to repair our relationship but she doesn't seem to feel the same way. Should I hang on or let go?

[Little Lulu]

I am sorry to hear you are in so much pain. Maybe giving up right away isn't the answer. Sometimes things like this blow over. If you are calling and texting, give it a rest and allow both of you some space. (I know this will be difficult.) I hope you have a counselor and support people around to help you through this.

[peaceseeker63]

I agree with Little LuLu... give it some time. Back off a little and let her figure out what she is doing. However, it is confusing that she says you've done nothing wrong yet she is seeking another man. I can understand that you want some clarity on the situation but she sounds confused, too.

I would find a therapist that can help support you and help you process your feelings, independent of your wife. Find a support group for separation and divorce and focus on yourself right now. Give it some time. (((HUGS)))

Let go. Sooner the better.

[Deweycox79]

I certainly need need counseling. But so far, (my luck), winter storms in New England have had my yet to be doc cancel 2 appointments. Thank you for your responses. I don't have many, if any, people to talk to.