[Deweycox79]

Has anyone ever dealt with there spouse telling you they've lost their love for you? Mine has and seems very willing to just give up and not try in any manner to re-ignite what was a very happy marriage. I think I know what the outcome will be, as we're separated right now. But is there any hope if she's already set her mind on not loving me anymore?

[jelly-bean]

There is always hope but the facts are not so encouraging. Have you considered couples counseling? That may be of some help but if she isn't willing to try that then I think your future with her is not very bright.

[avlady]

i think she probably already gave up since she's not with you anymore, but i do know people in my life that separated and did get back together. counseling? hopefully she will come to her sences and see how much she loves you, sometimes we just need time to ourselves.

[eskielover]

I thought I had lost love for my H but after 33 years when I finally left & could stand back & look at the marriage from the beginning, I realized that love was NEVER there & it could never grow because of his personality & his issues with lack of communication & lack of being able to connect emotionally.

For me, the peace I felt leaving was the best thing that ever happened to me in my whole life. There were just too many issues that started even before the marriage & unknowingly, I married someone who wasn't capable of maturing emotionally.

Sometimes there is a lot more behind someone loosing their love for someone than just that. In my case, it had nothing to do with any outside person either...sometimes that created the feeling of love lost because of the infatuation with the other person....but if there is no one....then were were more serious things going on in the marriage that either caused anger to build up & kill any love, or like in my case, love was never there from the beginning & the environment wasn't one where love could grow. I never knew that the feeling of LOVE was because my growing up family life was so dysfunctional that I didn't recognize that there wasn't a healthy relationship in the first place before my marriage (although I did recall that I had told my mother that I didn't want to get married & exactly why.....she assured me that he would grow up....but no one knew what was truly going on inside of his mind that blocked that from happening....something I only realized just this last year.

Marriage relationships are complicated & there is a lot that goes into making them successful.

If there is no working on it, I hope you will just let it go & learn from Mistakes made no matter what the cause.

Wishing you the best for yourself.

[Agarwaen]

Originally Posted by Deweycox79

Has anyone ever dealt with there spouse telling you they've lost their love for you? Mine has and seems very willing to just give up and not try in any manner to re-ignite what was a very happy marriage. I think I know what the outcome will be, as we're separated right now. But is there any hope if she's already set her mind on not loving me anymore?

Yes. I feel the same way. I've lost her.

But I ALWAYS have hope.

I can correct things. I can fix things. I can mend the rips in our relationship.

You know what, though?

If you are the only one doing that, it's a bad sign.

[OurLadysTears]

It is such a heartbreaking thing to hear situations like this. When I was younger I never in my mind imagined it would be so difficult to love and then keep, maintain, and nourish that love. And yet, it is so easy for us to hate. If you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me.

[SFM561]

Originally Posted by Deweycox79

Has anyone ever dealt with there spouse telling you they've lost their love for you? Mine has and seems very willing to just give up and not try in any manner to re-ignite what was a very happy marriage. I think I know what the outcome will be, as we're separated right now. But is there any hope if she's already set her mind on not loving me anymore?

Dewey I felt this way about my first husband (though our marriage never really got off the ground), and it truly had very little to do with him. I was so messed up from my childhood, that I don't think I had the ability to pick a spouse in a healthy way. He had his own issues too.

Have you guys tried counseling? We didn't do that and I wish that we had. Whether it would have helped or not, I'll never know.

I would want to at least pursue counseling first if I were you.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

[StokesBill28]

I am sorry you are going through this. I think I am not far behind you in my own relationship with my wife. I believe love is a gift and find strength in the saying:

"If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you its yours. If not, it was never meant to be."

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by Deweycox79

Has anyone ever dealt with there spouse telling you they've lost their love for you? Mine has and seems very willing to just give up and not try in any manner to re-ignite what was a very happy marriage. I think I know what the outcome will be, as we're separated right now. But is there any hope if she's already set her mind on not loving me anymore?

Yes, I have had that happen to me.I know it hurts.

Yep its happened to me as well. I've also been on the flip side of things though, fallen out of "love" plus being the only one to try and fix it and if there was a "try" on his end it didn't last long. If you're the only one trying though, like others have said, it doesn't look so bright.