[amethyst17]

Hi all,
I want to divorce my husband but can't at the moment as I need his financial contribution for me and my son. He is a nice guy but I should not have married him in the first place. I was afraid of being alone and he was head over heels with me. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to bring up the subject of divorce without hurting his self esteem and has anyone had to stay married for purely financial reasons? I do want to be free but I also have a son to think about. Could use some advice. Thanks in advance!!

[Hairball]

How long have u known each other? How long married? How old is your son? So u don't love him? and never did?

[amethyst17]

We've known each other for 5 years, married for 2. My son is a disabled young man of 22 years. I did love him when we got married and while we were dating but now I see a lot of differences that we have and he basically feels like more of a friend to me than a husband.

[Hairball]

Have u talked to him about how u feel? are u working on the relationship? or do u just feel like u don't want too anymore.

[amethyst17]

Originally Posted by Hairball

Have u talked to him about how u feel? are u working on the relationship? or do u just feel like u don't want too anymore.

I haven't talked to him because I know he would be devastated. He tells me how much he loves me and he's glad that he's not alone. I hate waiting until I am actually ready to divorce him to tell him but I am not sure how to tell him that I don't want to be married anymore. I also need to wait and see if I can make more money so that I can manage on my own.Do you come right out and say that you want a divorce or do you wait?