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It's been 2 years and I'm still trying to move on....Hearts have such power!

I know we will both move on but we talk almost everyday. We have joint custody of our 15 yr old daughter. But I am having a hard time getting my head around the fact that my (ex)wife will be dating etc. another man
and possibly already is. My main reason for divorceing her is her infidelity.

I have been separated for several years. Separated is the word he used for the kids but he left me. He was very angry at first and years into an affair. Found out a few months later there was a child. I was so hurt but I masked it well for the sake of my children and also because I didn’t want to divorce. I feel so stupid for doing so much on behalf of a marriage that only I want. We talk often recently and he admitted that he was blind, but nothing about us. After a recent conversation I feel like he doesn’t want me. However I can’t seem to pull the trigger. I can accept that he doesn’t want me, but I haven’t been able to file for divorce. My mother in law doesn’t think he will divorce me, but I’m beginning to feel like why? Us remaining married is only tying me down. He has a whole other family...

So Sorry this is happening. It will likely be difficult but i think you will be able to handle this as shocking as what you're going through can be! Please consider your options carefully! i Hope and Pray that things will turn out well. Have you tried to suggest Couple counseling to him? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Laughsmilecry, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

I spent some time trying to find the right online forum for this type of support. Looking forward to participating and grateful to having found this site!

My husband of 5 years (together for 10) left once again last week, for probably the 20th time. He disappeared just before my mom came to visit, and to add insult to injury, he said he might have come back over the weekend if she weren't there. Now he says it's over for good. I am so sad and scared, can't eat or sleep, having trouble focusing on work. I probably have to move, because the only family in this area are on his side. In the meantime I'm worried about getting stuck with the bills for an apartment I can't afford on my own. It's never been a positive or stable relationship but I still just wish he would come back.

Yeah I'm glad this is here. Some difficult things in my marriage and the desire to end things here... is it appropriate to display my laundry list here lol?

There's zero talking or sharing feelings, conversation is always one sided, no attraction, no sex, no intimacy, not even a friendship.

I know she won't change because how stubborn she is ... nor would I really want her to; most change is temporary and resentful anyway. What to do?

I'm so happy if found this forum. I've been struggling for more than a year and am trying not to loose my mind. Hopefully I can find what I need here and I'll feel comfortable sharing because I need to talk to someone or I feel like I will explode with sadness.

I'd like to chat. I feel the same. I am on the edge of a divorce and feel like I have no one to talk to. This is my first day here...

Hi, i'm brand new here. Can you tell me how to start a new thread.

I am new to divorce, new to support forums and new to the incredible PAIN this causes. Anyone that can offer insight on How to Let Go, how to stop feeling attached, how to get over someone you love and you thought loved you back?

So much has happened, too much to write. It boils down to 15 year relationship, 10 years of marriage, at least a 2 year affair, 3 months of supposedly trying to make it work only to learn he never ended the affair.
I’m 53, he’s 47. His girlfriend has been relentless about sending me screenshots of their texts to prove it is still going on. Even sent an audio of them having sex. This last round of texts was too much. He keeps saying they aren’t real because he hasn’t had anything to do with her!
It’s killing me. I have a hard time walking away from a fifteen year relationship! I’m so broken, so depressed, and so lonely. I’m hurt, angry, confused, desperate, and lost. I have no one to really go to other than his mother. We have talked and she’s been so supportive. But I’m in a really bad place and don’t know what to do!

H… New on online forums… Married 25 years been together since we were 19… Two small children 5 and 8… He left me because he says he idoes not know if he is in love with the women I welcome into our home and bed for a threesome… My fault I know…

Its nice to be here with everyone.

I am happy yo have found this site. It is good to know I am not the only one going through this nightmare of a divorce after a 30 year marriage.

New here.
My husband and I have been together for 15 years. Married for 10 years. We had 5 children together, 2 of which passed away during infancy. We have never really fought. More or less we would disagree on something and just agree to disagree. We have had many struggles., mainly financially after so many downs... the loss of our 2 children, loss of my job, having three more children (a set of twins included) he had a work related injury causing him to lose his job. Go unemployed for years ans lived off half his wages thru labor and industries. He finally landed a good job, but first year in he was in an accident and broke his back. Then I had the twins ans was taking care of house kids and him. Then he recovered returned to work and went into afib three times in one year also on short term disability during all that. Covid comes and he remained working although with all our life events were were drowning I. Debt. I could find a job due to both covid and the lack of work history over 12 years time. And although he asked me to help him financially I tried and tried and just haven't came up with a job yet. We were still ok relationship wise but broke. We opted to file for ch. 13 bankruptcy so we could get out of debt and keep out car and house. This was 6 months ago. He feels like he makes good money but we aren't getting anywhere, knowing full well that the bankruptcy was going to prevent us from. Immediately moving or anything. So we were ok. No fighting everything was good intimately and then one day 2 weeks ago he woke up in a different mood. I recognized it immediately and asked him what was wrong. He said he didn't know. Then he proceeds to me tell me he loves me but isn't in love with me. I know he was mad over getting paid and having nothibg left over. I would be mad too. But we didn't fight. He just came out and said he wanted a dicorce. I asked him to just think about it and he said he had and then I showed him a budget plan that would help us both financially. He didn't want to hear it. He wanted to discuss divorce and what I want from it. I told him I didn't want a dicorce I told him I will find a job and I told him we can do this together and be happier. He then said he needed time. Only then to come the next day bringing up divorce and wanting me to give him a set amount of money I want every month
. I told him I couldn't even think rationally as my emotions were all over the place. He mentioned waiting on dicorce til our bankruptcy explanation ends (approximately 2 and 1/2 years from now. We still have small talk and get along well until our separation comes up. He lives in a camper at his work. He usually messages each of kids "loveyou" at night but it's been 2 days and none of have heard from him. He did tell me he was going away this weekend and he needs time. I'm trying desperately to give him his time. I'm just having a hard time understand how this is so easy for Jim. Is he even thinking about me. He he misses me. I try to think it's not possible for him to not miss me, we spent the last 15 years not going a day without speaking. How can he not feel something about that.
Am I hopeful wishing when I sit here thinking he might come back to me? Has anyone else gone thru something similar and had their spouse come back?

I'm going through a divorce and I have to say: I always knew my wife was a little out there but I didn't know that she was a total space cadet until we were married. Many of the things I've been accused of just. never. happened.

She's called me a bum, a *****, a liar, a free-loader, many I can't remember. Seems almost abusive.

Hi, I'm new as of this week-
Just need a place to get this heavy burden off my chest-I'm working to leave my emotionally abusive "boyfriend" he's negative everytime I talk to him, nothing is ever good enough or right- he doesn't appreciate anything anyone does for him, people start out liking him, but they drift away when they realize this...he's in my band, i live on his property so while I'm looking for another musician for that spot and a job for a new apartment- I have to interact with him-This 43 year old man has the maturity of a 13 year old, he's been laid off, finally had the first interview and wore shorts and sandals when they asked him to the 2nd one -"they'd have to see the real him", has an MBA, BSEE smoked pot all summer and expected me to support him with my disablity income...no I'm not perfect,I've been to a therapist about an emotionally abusive mother and I realize I've been feeling obligated to rewrite the past by pleasing an unpleasable person but I'm done, and moving on.
Here's the problem, I've been dealing with him in passing, by being involved in positive activites ( tap dance classes, community college,)but then he insists that we need to be "close" and "have conversations", which he uses as opportunities to talk about himself.
Every time I talk to him, try to give him the benefit of the doubt, it's almost always a waste of time-I try to be patient and bide my time until he finishes talking, but lately anytime I give him benefit of the doubt it's too draining, this last time it just felt like a big weight on my chest literally, like I could not breathe.

I'm going a divorce myself and I have so many issues going on and all that comes along with the separation and emotions. I have 3 kids 1 adult son that is 20yrs and a daughter that is 16 yrs old and a son that is 14 yrs old. My husband is Alcoholic and it's been really bad I have been abuse also. My husband has had 2 affairs also.
My kids have seen a lot of the fighting that has happen in the last 2 or 3 yrs and then this year has been the top. So I'm ending 21 years marriage.

Just found this, I am separated from my husband about 3 years now due to few reasons which I can't explain here until I know which one is the right forum to share. We are born again Christians, separation issues are very difficult to talk about because of others' different opinions. Could you direct me to the right forum if this isn't the right one? many thanks.

i am with someone who i love dearly, we finally feel like we found our soulmates and unfortunately, his ex wife is bipolar and is not making their divorce easy for me or him-
what do we do?