[Grandessa]

My husband left and filed for divorce after 41 years of marriage. I didn't expect this at all. I was the happiest I have ever been. The grief and sense of loss were nearly unbearable. I am better now. I would love to hear from others who may have similar experiences. Thanks.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Grandessa: I am not in this situation. But being an older person myself I can somewhat imagine what this must be doing to you. So I would simply like to send my best wishes with the hope that you will be able to find deep peace within...

[fishin fool]

My ex and I divorced after 27 years, I can imagine the pain you must feel
after 41 years. It does get better and it will get easier.
I wanted the divorce though so that is the big difference here.
I hope you are able to get on with your life and be happy.

Originally Posted by Grandessa

My husband left and filed for divorce after 41 years of marriage. I didn't expect this at all. I was the happiest I have ever been. The grief and sense of loss were nearly unbearable. I am better now. I would love to hear from others who may have similar experiences. Thanks.

Wow,I am sorry that happened.

I don't share that experience but I was trying to imagine what that would be like and just wanted to say I'm sorry.

You said you are better now.I'm glad to hear that.How did you get through it,what helped you?Adjusting to no longer being with someone after 41 years must have been pretty rough.

[eskielover]

My experience was very different from yours....I'm the one that walked out after 33 years & wish I had done it a lot earlier in life. I moved across the country 2100 miles away. Divorce from out of state is different. He didn't want a divorce, said it would make him look like a loser & he kept talking me into staying or making it too difficult for me to leave until I finally got fed up & finally sold my moms house after she died. Took my inheritance & left (feels like an escape honestly)

9 years separated though we were separated 13 years while living in the same house. He thought because I tolerated him forb33 years that I would just tolerate him the rest of our lives. I finally realized the REAL reason behind my suicide attempts. At the time thought it was the only way out of the marriage until my mom died of cancer.

The peace I felt after him was amazing. I didn't miss him for a moment....I have no intention of ever getting married again after that.

im in the beginning process of divorce after 29 years after the "husband" walked out and took my 13yo son with him and kept him from me for almost 3 weeks. its unbearable for me i can only imagine how much more intense it must be for you here if you need someone to talk to ((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))