Here we go again

So it's the same thing...I try to talk to him about a bill...he flips out and first rolls his eyes and says of course it's about money. Then says soon I will be gone and it's over, it's been over for awhile. I told you that you were gonna get your money. He walks away, so I followed him and said so you are moving out? He said do you really think that I am going to keep living like this? That me and the girls are going to hear you yell at me? I said I am not the one yelling, you are and you avoid me so you don't have to talk to me....I was just trying to talk about it since it is his bill that went up. So why should I keep paying for this if he is planning on moving out? I said you know none of it adds up. You work all the time, but you never have any money...when there is a repair to make, it is my house.

The reason I am posting this is because I am so incredibly sad about it. That it's over and that it has been over for a long time...so why does he torture me by living here? I am really sick to my stomach and I don't know how to move on. I am afraid that he is going to take the kids since he has threatened that too...all while yelling at me...I am really emotional about this and can't take it anymore.

Every thing in my life (or lack thereof) has been for him and the kids....I am now a sheltered person who goes to work and comes home, so he can do whatever he needs to do. It is never good enough. Why does he keep threatening me with taking the kids? How can I be strong through all of this? I will be reaching out to a lawyer to see what my rights are. But it is still hard...

You're giving too much credence to what he says. He can't just "take the kids." Where's he going to take them to? It sounds like you need to get this guy out of the house. There is a legal process to do that. You very much do need to see a lawyer.

Your main worry right now is protecting yourself, financially - for the kids' sake, as well as your own. Certainly, don't go making payments on things that just benefit him. Make sure he can't access your money. If you do believe it's over, find out how to move forward with disentangling yourself from him. I'm sure this isn't what you envisioned when you thought you were building a life with him and you had high hopes. But it sounds like you may not be losing much. Turn a deaf ear to his foolish threats.