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Feb 20, 2017, 12:13 PM
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Hi...I have been in a relationship for 16 years...we have two kids together...now, if he doesn't like something, he threatens to take the kids...I don't like how he talks to me in general, if there are actual words exchanged between us even if it was supposed to be a normal conversation. He is a pretty crappy person to us. ...since he knows today is a day off for me...he goes to work and then never comes home....no call, no text, no nothing...the kids ask me where he is, but I have to tell them IDK or I think he is still at work. When he does come home...he takes a bath or sleeps...totally checked out...so now the real issue is that he says he is going to leave and take the kids. Why? Because he didn't like that I got pissed about a house repair because as usual he won't pay for it because it is my house and that this part keeps breaking when I deep clean it...deep clean the mess that he makes...so I said something to effect that you don't even help pay for the house or how about the repair I made to hole in the wall that he punched...who is going to have to paint it too??? Me....of course...because it is my house...and that he likes to steal money from me and doesn't even pay for his car insurance because he has no money but is at work all the time. So he says that he is going to call the police and have the kids stay at some else's house because I was drinking wine...wow...really??? I wasn't even drunk or buzzed...he is the one that is passed out after drinking a half bottle of vodka and 4 beers...I need to know legally what I can do to prevent him from taking the kids...we are not married but uses me as his "wife" when it is in his favor.
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 Anonymous50284, Bill3
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Feb 20, 2017, 09:07 PM
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Im leaving him, with the help of a womens shelter. They told me that when I pull the trigger on him that im leaving, i need to head down to the court house and apply for an emergency custody order. Basically, it is just a safety net so that he can't legally take the children away from me. Mine are only 9 months, 2 and 8 years old. Im guessing from there onwards, we will have to go through the courts to plan our custody rights. Im not sure where you live, im in Canada, but im sure there is something like this available where you are. She did tell me that be sure I'm away from him once I have made the application as he will be notified. Are you planning on leaving him? Or just want to make sure he cant take the kids if he leaves? As far as I know, you both have equal rights to the children if there is no custody order in place. |
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Feb 21, 2017, 09:55 PM
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I want to make sure he does not take the kids...I do want to leave him, but I let him stay for the kids...but I think this situation sucks no matter what and maybe being apart will be best for all of us...
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Mar 01, 2017, 04:00 AM
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You should get some advice from a lawyer about what you may need to do.
If he were to "take the kids," where would he be taking them to? This sounds like an empty bluff to me. |
 metalchick
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Apr 08, 2017, 11:21 PM
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I agree that he is using that fear to control you. Sounds like he could not handle that responsibility anyway. I would recommend a consultation with a lawyer at least find out what legal recourse you have if he does take them. Armed with that information you can make an informed decision on how to move forward and get you and your children in a healthier environment.
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