[Thesaneex]

This guy never stops. No one cheated on him, it is all in his head, and the separation was 9 years ago. He constantly threatens to tell children horrible things about mom, withhold things from kids, etc.. He wants to tell kids of the significance of anniversary, but the divorce was final over seven years ago and both have remarried. How do you handle this stuff?

10-22-17

It truly saddens me to know that our children will have to be dealt yet another blow in regards to their reality of who and what their mother is really about. They will inevitably come to know that their mother broke her vows of marriage and slept with another man. They will know that their own flesh and blood (mother) brainwashed them to alienate them from a father who unselfishly loves them. They will know that their mother took up with a man who is A Real Control Freak and will know that the lies about their father being controlling were exactly that, LIES!

God's Peace and
Godspeed,
-JXXX

10-16-17

Due to your hateful behaviors, I am not planning on allowing AXXXX to go to this weekends game. Moreover, I will explain to her why her mother's choices are the reason for this now necessary discipline. It's unfortunate that she has to get the discipline when you are responsible for the problem. However, that is just part of life and a valuable opportunity to pass on life knowledge and wisdom to AXXXX.

God's Peace,
-JXXX

10-10-17

If you want to continue this unethical approach, I will be certain to bring it to the children's attention as well as the fact that you willingly chose to be intimate with another man while you were still married.

It's your call darling. Choose wisely!

God's Peace,
-JXXX

8-13-17

you need to ask yourself what part did you play in all of that.

You refused to communicate with me for years and refused to address the issues that your parents were causing. Quite honestly I think you actually used that to your advantage to actually initiate the breakup. You spontaneously decided you no longer wanted to be married and use various situations to push me past the point that anyone could bear.

Then, you continuously refused to go to a counselor to try to work things out. I'm pretty confident that you already had your replacement relationship in the wings and did not want any reconciliation. You want it out and that's what you got, out.

8-13-17

And I feel very strongly that you do need to come clean about going on dating sites and going out on dates Etc while we were still married.

8-13-17

I should be able to have the children anytime I want during the summer that you are not doing something with them. That is how adult parents work things out because you have them all year long during the school year.

8-13-17

And again, are you kidding me? You have every single day of the year with them except for the few days that I get them. You need to get some reality with this.

8-13-17

Do you really feel that our children are of such low intelligence and so lacking in maturity but they are not going to figure out exactly what is transpired?

8-13-17

You will not be always able to hide behind the fact that you can't condition them to thinking what you want them to think. Eventually they grow up

8-13-17

Anytime that you're not able to be with the children you should be asking me if I would like to have them. That's how it's supposed to go. But again you just want to be evil and do whatever you can to keep the children from me. But no at some point this all is going to come out in the children are going to find out what really has gone on.

8-13-17

Since for some strange reason this concept seems to be evasive for you, the order is for me to get time with the children not for you to get time with the children because you already have all their time... You stating that I have taken any time from you is like the beach being upset because someone walked off with a grain of sand....

8-11-17

Dear S,

I must give credit where credit is due. You are quite amazing at manufacturing stories and telling them to yourself until you believe them (this is referred to, in the field of psychology, as "Creating Your Own Reality)". This has always been and continues to be something that you very much excel at. Fiction becomes reality for the person who repeatedly tells them self something that is untrue; however, it doesn't change the truth. The truth is that You made a COVENANT with GOD, that you would above all else stay married, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad and in times of sickness and in health. Apparently this is something that was unimportant and insignificant to you. You chose not only to break this covenant but you also chose to be intimate with another man while you were still married. Have you explained this to our children yet? How do you think they will feel when they find this out... especially if they find out from someone other than you?

7-21-17

Subject: Regarding Handling our Wedding Anniversary Today with our Children...

Dear SXXXX,
I wanted to reach out to you to try to be on the same sheet of music regarding our wedding anniversary today. How would you prefer this be presented to the children? How do you intend on passing along the significance of this day to them? I don't intend on making a huge issue of it; however, it would be irresponsible of me as a parent to simply ignore it as if it had never happened.
Your thoughts and ideas are welcomed and encouraged.
God's Peace,
-JXXX

To: JXXX
This has nothing to do with custody, and we aren't married, so what does it matter? You don't need to say anything to the kids. I think it would be irresponsible to do so. Do you do this every year? Remind them that we were married? If not, why do so this year? What is the significance?

Dear SXXX,

The significance, lest you forget, is that six(6) amazing, wonderful, brilliant children were born to us during our time together of love, marriage and devotion. I get that this was in the past and that it is difficult for you to accept that you were in love with me and out of that love, six amazing children were conceived.

There are many significant things from the past that have an important bearing on our lives today. For example, should we not celebrate Memorial Day? Should we not recognize the sacrifices of all those that have died or been wounded to give us our freedom?

Similar to their birthdays, This is a VERY SIGNIFICANT day in the lives of our children and its significance and importance should be presented as such. Furthermore, there should be a united "front" of agreement between us as to how we present it to them.
God's Peace,
-JXXX

To: JXXX
if this is VERY SIGNIFICANT as you put it, then answer these questions:
Do you do this every year? Remind them that we were married?
If not, why do so this year?
If it is VERY SIGNIFICANT in your mind, shouldn't you do it every year?

Dear SXXX,
Yes, I have done this in the past.

Please let me know how we can work together to present this to the children to maximize the positive results for them. As they hear the significance of this event from both of us, in a united front, it will accelerate their healing process and help them immensely with the future relationships of their own. I don't want them to take the vows of marriage as being insignificant or disposable. It is extremely important that they learn and know that ALL problems can be worked out if two people are simply willing to do so. It's also important to give them a sense that when you place Togetherness as the Only Option, then the Way will yield to the Will.

God's Peace,
-JXXX

5-10-17

. From:JXXX
. To:
o SXXX (First View: 05/11/2017 5:23 AM)
. Sent:05/10/2017 10:01 PM
. Subject:RE: Wedding...
Message:
Mother of OUR children, has your heart become so cold? The fact is that all 6 of the children are OUR Children and that truth will never change. They all were concieved in LOVE, the ONLY REAL TRUTH. Has this become insignificant to you now? Please reconsider this on behalf of our children.

God's Peace,
-JXXX

On Wed, 05/10/17 at 9:38 PM, SXXX wrote:
To: JXXX
Subject: RE: Wedding...
Message:
Let's keep the focus on custody matters

On Wed, 05/10/17 at 9:16 PM, JXXX wrote:
To: SXXX
Subject: Wedding...
Message:
FYI, I've asked DXXX to stand up for me as my best man at the wedding...

5-10-17

. From:JXXX
. To:
o SXXX (First View: 05/11/2017 5:24 AM)
. Sent:05/10/2017 10:10 PM
. Subject:RE: AXXXX Junior Marshall Nomination
Message:
Again, I am her father and I will handle this. I will keep you and AXXX updated on how it will be handled.

If this continues to be provoked, I will not be making sure that she attends the ceremony. She has already been named and on paper, that is able to be put on a resume or any other document necessary...

3-14-17

On Tue, 03/14/17 at 9:43 AM, JXXX wrote:
To: Sandy Crane
Subject: RE: Dr. Rappleyea appt. w the children tomorrow night...
Message:
Dear SXXXX,

The appointment he is speaking about in April is for you and the children. The appointment tonight is for the children and me.

On a related note, regarding being flexible and working together, I have looked at your request for the weekend after Easter. I spoke a bit prematurely and may need to make a change. However, since tonight's meeting is of higher importance, I would be willing to grant your weekend swap request if you will have the children at the meeting tonight.

God's Peace,
-J

12-2-16

. From:JXXX
. To:
o SXXXX (First View: 12/02/2016 9:12 PM)
. Sent:12/02/2016 9:12 PM
. Subject:RE: Upcoming Court Date
Message:

Hello?

I see that you have read this offer of cooperation "for the third time" and you still choose not to answer. I submit to you, and to ALL who will read this, that your refusal to answer this is undeniably and unarguably the loudest statement that you could ever make. This fact, regarding this one simple and single issue, evidences what is so wisely stated in the bible in Matthew 6:21 "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." If our children were TRULY your treasure, then cooperating with my request would be unnecessary because you would already be doing it. Why, because your heart would be where your treasure is. If your heart was with the children, you would be incapable of behaving in anything but a good and loving way. You would already have been evidencing your support for the relationships between the children and me because they are infinitely more crucial in importance than your need for self righteousness. You would be capable of looking into the mirror to find the motivation and truth behind your actions. You would already be supporting the relationships between father and child and you would already be teaching them how important it is for them to love their earthly father nearly as much as it is for them to love their heavenly father. I still pray for you and I still believe that you will turn this around because it is the right thing to do and because it is in the best interest of the children and everyone.

Please don't let our children down. Please make the better choice and evidence to them that they are your treasure and that your heart is with them.

God's Peace,
-Jude

From: JXXX
To: SXXX (First View: 08/31/2016 10:16 PM)
Sent: 08/31/2016 8:51 PM
Subject: RE: Court
Message:
I'm willing to consider it if u r willing to tell All the children about my MANY Good Qualities and to tell them frequently, consistency and often. I wud also require that u tell them of at a minimum, one good memory per week that you have of us. can u agree to that?

[Molinit]

This is a bunch of noise. If I'm reading the past posts of yours correctly, this person is sending these to your current wife and these children are your stepchildren?

If so, this is not your problem. Your wife needs to take all this to court. Also, why does she not have primary custody?

Edit: Actually I'm reading further, are you two not married yet? I guess my question again is why doesn't she have custody of her children and she should be talking to her attorney about the children being punished with these emails as documentation.

[Sunflower123]

This guy is off his rocker. That phrase God’s peace just takes the cake. It’s sickening that he’s putting the kids in the middle. I believe I would take all of this to my attorney to see what could be done. Maybe a cease and desist letter?

[healingme4me]

What does the custody agreement say in regards to visitation schedules?
Almost a decade divorced and he is still this bitter? What gives?

[Thesaneex]

Originally Posted by Molinit

This is a bunch of noise. If I'm reading the past posts of yours correctly, this person is sending these to your current wife and these children are your stepchildren?

If so, this is not your problem. Your wife needs to take all this to court. Also, why does she not have primary custody?

Edit: Actually I'm reading further, are you two not married yet? I guess my question again is why doesn't she have custody of her children and she should be talking to her attorney about the children being punished with these emails as documentation.

We've been married for six years, she has primary custody, and he has secondary custody (something akin to visitation). We have been to court, and the judge put a clause in the order about neither party speaking disparagingly about the other. That clause hasn't slowed him down though.

[Thesaneex]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

This guy is off his rocker. That phrase God’s peace just takes the cake. It’s sickening that he’s putting the kids in the middle. I believe I would take all of this to my attorney to see what could be done. Maybe a cease and desist letter?

Thanks for the recommendation. I'm not sure how the cease and desist would work in this case, but it is worth exploring.

[Thesaneex]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

What does the custody agreement say in regards to visitation schedules?
Almost a decade divorced and he is still this bitter? What gives?

He gets them every other weekend, 1/2 of the Christmas holiday, every other spring break and every other thanksgiving. He gets three weeks in the summer, and my wife and I pay all of the out of pocket expenses for the medical bills.

On the child support, he pays what the state deems to be 40% of support because she makes more money that he does. He claims the IRS dependent deduction for the youngest kid, so why is he bitter - no idea.

[eskielover]

Originally Posted by Thesaneex

We've been married for six years, she has primary custody, and he has secondary custody (something akin to visitation). We have been to court, and the judge put a clause in the order about neither party speaking disparagingly about the other. That clause hasn't slowed him down though.

Take this ALL back to court (both sides of the communication) & let the judge decide the appropriate action at this point. His final say will be stronger if necessary & there will be consequences.

This is beyond something that can be handled out of court

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Thesaneex

He gets them every other weekend, 1/2 of the Christmas holiday, every other spring break and every other thanksgiving. He gets three weeks in the summer, and my wife and I pay all of the out of pocket expenses for the medical bills.

On the child support, he pays what the state deems to be 40% of support because she makes more money that he does. He claims the IRS dependent deduction for the youngest kid, so why is he bitter - no idea.

Have your wife log everytime he skirts his visitation and take him back to court.

[Rose76]

This guy sounds dangerous. I woukd consult an attorney about this stuff.