[peedoff]

Hi my wife walked out on me with my two daughters. She is now over 500 miles away and i travel that distance to see my girls every 2wks. My ex has once again started to mess about with my visiting would i be better off taking her to court and getting my visiting rights finalised so she cant keep me from my girls??????????????

[nowheretorun]

sorry you're going through this peedoff... ive been there... i started to write a reply to this earlier, but a whole bunch of stuff flooded me...

the thing that always matters most, as i'm sure you agree, is what is best for the children..

you can look inside yourself and know that answer..

for me, i had to back away in the best interest of everyone... not saying thats what you should do at all..

assess it carefully... my own ex blocked and hindered visitations also, and that is about the most pain ive ever experienced...

its tuff to deal with alone.. for me, i needed to talk, talk, talk....

hope you find both answers and relief...

[AAAAA]

peedoff,

I would definately have the court decide these things sooner rather than later. Thing are raw between the two of you right now. In my opinion, it would be better for an unbiased third party straighten things out.

I wish the very best of luck.

[katheryn]

rather than go to court what about a third person that can intiate mediation between you both so you can come to a better agreement, on the times and where you see your children
your ex-wife might back of a little if she doesnt think you are out to take the girls from her, in the meantime let the girls no how much you love them and none of this is there fault
when you do anything do it for them not you or your ex-wife

[sunrise]

Are you divorced or just separated?

If you are not divorced yet, be sure to have it written into your settlement that one spouse cannot just take the girls to live in a different town 500 miles away! The girls' mother should not be able to do that. Make sure you watch out for your rights and have an experienced divorce lawyer to help you watch out for stuff like this. You shouldn't have to have "visiting rights," unless there is something wrong with you (dangerous for your girls to be around, etc.). You and the mother of your kids should have shared custody, meaning you each get the girls for part of the time. Neither of you should be a "visitor." Please guard your rights and do not agree to give up shared custody. Your girls need both parents in their lives. Enlist the aid of a mediator if you cannot come to an agreement readily.

Above all else, make sure your girls know you love them and want to spend time with them, and that you hope to get this all sorted out soon. Tell their mother, you don't want a battle but what is best for the girls, which is for them to have a significant relationship with both parents. Try to get her to put the girls first, rather than her own needs. Get your lawyer to try to speak with these terms too, instead of being hostile and antagonistic.

Good luck to you and your family!