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My soon-to-be ex-husband terminated our marriage because I was bankrupting him (his words). Until I met him, I had a successful career and was highly independent. He insisted that I'd be by his side wherever his job brought him, mostly across continents, so I had to give up my job. As he was paid a lot more than I, our finances were never an issue. My not having my own earnings, however, became a big issue in our marriage as he constantly reminded me that he had to work hard for every cent that I spent, which made it difficult for me to meet my financial obligations to my from a previous marriage. Although he alone transferred the funds from our joint account to my son's, he is now blaming me for what he's done. My husband is of retirement age and must be panicking with his low pension funds - this I told myself. So I started a new but sound business to augment our income and to feel that I was me again, but this angered him even more as he does not want me to be doing anything else but just take care of him.

Does a woman have to forget about who she is to have a successful marriage? Now my husband is angrier as I insist that with the divorce, I will be compensated for the opportunity lost from giving up my job for him. He wants to divorce without him giving me anything as he insists that much of what we have was from his family inheritance. I know he is wrong for thinking this but I feel terribly sorry for him for worrying over his pension funds! What should I do? Should I just agree not to have any share of our income during the marriage? He says what he's spent on my son's uni allowances should be more than enough for my share.

Let the court decide.

I trust you have an attorney? Take your attorney's advice on what settlement to request. Then let the legal process play out. The court will look at the big picture objectively. Any attempt to try and discuss any of this with your husband probably won't serve any good purpose.