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Jun 27, 2009, 10:58 PM
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I am sure lots of people ask this question. But how do you know if its time to stop every destructive thing you do to cope and actually get help? i realized a long time ago that i can continue this way for a long time. i have in the past. but i dont know. i am beginning a relationship with someone and heading off to college. maybe its time to just stop and ask the for the dreaded help. but how does one really know? i mean i guess if i am truly not ready i can always go back but then i would have just wasted the time of those who have helped me and my own time. should i just wait until i know for sure that i want to stop?
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Jun 28, 2009, 08:28 AM
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By the way for the fourth or fifth time or some crap like that. But I'm here to tell ya this. Everytime that your eating disorder gives youroom in your life to think about treatment, you should take it. It NEVER is simply a waste of time. You will gain something out of every time and it may only have to be once. But you will gain you, back. You will remember really what it is to feel well. And some tools to help you. It is not a waste of anyones time. This is your life. If you were having a heart attack on the side of the street I would find it hard to believe that the ambulance would drive by. Or the hospital wouldn't help you because its a waste of time. So love yourself, start fresh. You'll be happy you did. |
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Jun 28, 2009, 09:40 AM
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I think if the thought of getting help is there it is a good time to get the help that is needed.
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Jun 28, 2009, 06:56 PM
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i dont know i am just horrified by the reality of my disorders i guess i wish i never started.
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Jun 29, 2009, 05:53 AM
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my eating disorder is going to let me in in touch with a therpist. i hope. my friend help me eat my first meal i am thankful but then im not buti will deal with what i am going through i need to get in control ofm y life. going to work later
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Jun 29, 2009, 10:41 AM
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 If you're thinking of stopping and asking the questions of yourself... it sounds like it's a good time for you to try to get the support you need to quit.
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Jun 30, 2009, 06:27 PM
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Jul 01, 2009, 12:54 AM
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I just made the step to see a weight loss doctor today.... ((( hugs to you))) |
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Jul 08, 2009, 08:29 PM
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Jul 11, 2009, 09:11 PM
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i have made the decision not to do anything right now. things have gotten better on their own and no i am not fooling myself. i haven't harmed myself in months i have been eating more and i have cut town the binging and purging. so maybe this was just a destructive phase and yes i know my demons are still there until i deal with them but maybe i can do that in a different way thats for all the support
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Jul 12, 2009, 09:05 AM
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Hi Zimmy Girl, Its good to hear your overall assement of your recovery . Its easy to feel like one is at square one having a slip. A slip being a return to "stinking thinking " ( thats a 12 step slogan) or maybe acting out in self harming defeating ways Quote:
one could be in yhe hospital an not remeber what needs to be adresed .and it doesn't you get released and its back to the same old grind of dealing with isues as they arise . its duable though. I have feelings around issues sti ll such as hurt and lonekiness . I just don't harm my health in a physical way . I look to spirital help to deal with the losses . individual therapy week to week can be benifitial . getting out the deamons on a support forum can also . we are human and they tend to be the same in each of us. the remedey for some of the answers are not easy . keep reaching out sharing and searching. Patricia |
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Jul 12, 2009, 05:58 PM
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But how do you know if its time to stop every destructive thing you do to cope and actually get help?
When your body stops acting in a normal way & you are not able to do the things you need to do in life. i realized a long time ago that i can continue this way for a long time. i have in the past. All you need is one little thing to set you over the edge when you are already on the down hill side & it doesn't take a long time....it can take a very short time to loose a lot of weight....I went through a trauma....me weight was already low & the stress drove my weight down 20 lbs in less than a few months.....to need IV nutrition just to stay alive because the anemia got so bad so fast. When you have no room for problems & problems arise....such as stress in your new going away to school situation, or your new relationship...you don't know what the future holds that could make it worse or make it better......why not make sure it goes to the better by getting the IRL support to make sure you are in control of your weight....not controlling it. but i dont know. i am beginning a relationship with someone and heading off to college. When you are starting a new phase in your life, there is no time like the present to make sure your future will be ok & will be what you want it to be. I can honestly say that when you are starving your mind, it is not going to be able to study or retain all you need to in order to be successful in college....I know that from personal experience.....I was taking college classes the first time I had anorexia problems & I couldn't focus on the class....had to drop it when it got that bad.....don't think you want to start off college that way???? maybe its time to just stop and ask the for the dreaded help. but how does one really know? i mean i guess if i am truly not ready i can always go back but then i would have just wasted the time of those who have helped me and my own time. should i just wait until i know for sure that i want to stop? Maybe you need to be asking yourself why you don't know for sure that you want to stop? Why do you want to continue doing something that can harm yourself & your future plans when you are starting a new phase of your life???? Why do you want to waste your time going to college if you want to end up continuing a life style that will only make going to college & completeing it successfully more difficult if not impossible? Things can look better on the outside, but if you haven't taken care of what is going on inside of you that has been causing you to deal with your life this way so far & you haven't changed the cause, the result will continue to be the same....unless you get professional help that knows how to get to the bottom of your issues.....,maybe there is a fear of knowing that information???? But if you really want to make this a turning point in your life....you need to deal with the whole picture & start it all fresh. The older we get the more we can look back I see how things really were......I didn't start experiencing anorexia until I was 42....I always tried to loose weight & keep thin, but the anorexia never hit until I was older & has serious issues hit & the stress was the trigger to loosing weight as it always had been all my life...it's just that the stress lasted too long & the weight loss continued too long to be healthy....landing me in the hospital just to stay alive. Think about your future taking charge of your past so it doesn't ruin all the good plans you have for your future. Take care, Debbie [/quote]
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