[findingmy_self95]

OKay, well Im doing this thing now with my friend, barely eating, taking diet supplements and only I puke cause she just can't, its like impossible for her and exercising EXESSSIVELY, Im so sore but i feel so good tho. Ive lost almost 10lbs,. so I don't know if I wanna stop thats the thing, is it bad i got into this and I feel HORRIBLE that im getting my friend back into anorexia, but I can't do it without her....We need the support from eachother, she pushes me, not forcfully but in a supportive way top do things I feel to fat to do....She makes me feel good about myself and I feel absolutely disguted by my selfishness. I just dont know what I shopuld do, I need the support and help, but I know she might be harder to snap out of this anorexia thing than me. :S

I guess it comes down to this: do you feel horrible and disgusted enough to stop what you are doing, for both your sakes? Or are you feeling so good that you want to continue in spite of whatever damage you both may be doing to yourselves? And also, unfortunately the only one you can stop is yourself. She must decide for herself whether to stop or not. But with your support in that direction she might have an easier time deciding to do so..
You sound kind of young (to me who is almost 50)...maybe seek out someone older who can help in person?? Or who can at least listen??

[amante]

Ripley has some sound advice for you and your friend Brennan, try to think of it that for all the good you are doing in the gym working out, you are un doing it by the eating disorders and the damage that can do to your health. this is serious stuff and perhaps you can lean on your parents, brother or sister or someone to try and pull you out of the vicious cycle. Does your school have counselling? Sending positive thoughts your way.

[Molly-red-bracelet]

''OKay, well Im doing this thing now with my friend, barely eating, taking diet supplements and only I puke cause she just can't, its like impossible for her and exercising EXESSSIVELY,''

OK I am going to sound really harsh here ....

First of all... you may have eating problems , but what the hek are you doing encouraging and competing with your 'friend' to also do this. I use the term 'friend' loosely because no friend would do that to each other. I find your post very concerning.

Anorexia kills. Slowly and painfully. Not only from malnutrition ... or dehydration ... heart failure or kidney problems. But from broken bones due to oesteoperosis , perhaps not just now... wait itll you are 30 ... get a broken bone, it can't heal... you get infection ... and die ?? U want that .. u want that for your friend??

You feel horrible for 'getting your friend back in to anorexia' ? Goodness i dont know what to say to this.

Please give your self a good shake and think what you are doing to yourself .. and your 'friend' . Anorexia is not a competition. Its not a choice like you make it out to be. Im sorry i sound harsh but this post struck a nerve

[whoswho]

I'm agree with Molly. I honestly can't understand why two friends would encourage each other to slowly kill themselves. The idea of it really irks me.

Look, an eating disorder is not a diet. Anorexia isn't just something you "try on" to lose a few pounds and put away when you're done. Bulimia isn't that "cure-all way to lose weight without changing your diet" because you just puke up everything afterward. It's a horrible process of self-loathing and masochism, but it has nothing to do with food. Food is just the object of obsession--your obsession to self-destruct.

So if you're "feeling good" about it, you're probably not doing it right.

The most common element surrounding ALL Eating Disorders is the inherent presence of a low self esteem.

Dieting is about losing some weight in a healthy way so how you feel on the outside will match how good you already feel on the inside.

Instead of promoting this unhealthy obsession, why not encourage each other to live long and healthy lives? If it's something serious, you need to speak up about it to someone.

However, I'm unable to condone or "give support" for this behavior. You don't "snap out" of an eating disorder. It consumes your life and it's not a joke.

I don't mean to come off as being harsh or mean. I really hope that both of you will either stop this before it's too late or get some help.

~Whoswho

[amante]

Brennan,
how are you both doing with everything. have you made any commitments to changing the negative stuff going on with the eating habits and gym. How are you feeling? just checking in.

[purplefaerydust]

i have to agree with many here. an eating disorder isn't a neat little trick to loose those extra stubborn pounds. when you come up for air 20 years later with no life, wretched body health, no sanity.... its not pretty. it is not a fun game or something two "friends" should just do one month. im trying to heal and my body hates me - 22 years. im uncomfortable, bloated, i can't swallow correctly, my bowels are shot....

it may sound good at first but you are definately playing with fire. also, if your friend is in recovery why in the hell would you pull her back.

also, you can't just "snap out" of anorexia. whatever you are doing, you are just starting so snap out of it.

however, i know with eating disorders i can tell you all the hell that you have to look forward to but if it has its hooks in you - you're off and running, thriving on the fact that you are on a one-way path to death. "i don't give a ----, im getting skinny!"

listen to our warnings, please!!

kc