[Howlin Mad]

My friend reckons she has an eating disorder, so I've done loads of talking to her.
It annoys me though that I've hinted often enough at the fact that I have my own experience with EDs, but she never once asks me about it.

Anyway, she has a strict diet anyway, because she has PKU, but on top of that she's steadily been eating less and less, and she's a dancer, so she's using up a lot of energy already. She's at uni, and so I haven't seen her in a while, but apparently her uni tutors are taking it pretty seriously since they found out she has had problems eating. I went to the shops with her the other day because she said she needed a new leotard, and she was saying how scary it was that the really small ones fitted her, and that she'd dropped a lot of weight in a year.

It gets rather annoying though, sometimes, because first we did establish that a number of people noticed she was on track to developing on ED when she was still at college, and I told her that was a couple of people she saw from the support team, and I noticed too. And when she started getting funny at the fact that we had all noticed and she hadn't, I told her straight out that we'd all had some kind of experience with ED's in the past. Fair enough, the support team probably deal with loads of students with EDs every year, but what about me, huh?

I used to struggle with bulimia, used to get so mad when I ate and had to get it out of me. This would lead to me eating less, so I'd be essentially starving myself. It used to be something that would happen a lot when I was in high school, I'd eat a lot, be throwing up, and then start starving myself, eventually I'd wanna eat again, then it's just a circle from there.
But although I managed to get past it when I was round 15, it still happens from time to time, especially after when I've been eating more than I feel I should, usually holiday's birthdays and such.....

Here's the thing though. When I go through the starving section, I drop a lot of weight in 2-4 weeks.

Fairly recently I just lost weight just before September. Nobody says to me anything about losing weight coz I always wear really baggy clothes, but people were always saying to my friend she was losing weight, and she goes "they noticed that" and I say "yes, you always squish yourself into the smallest size clothing that will fit you, of course people notice".

I guess it half ticks me off that she gets to go "Poor me, poor me, I got this and now I have that, and I don't know if I can fight this off, I lost all this weight and I feel tired and ill, boo-hoo"
and I'm left going "it's alright, it'll be fine, I'm here" and in my head I'm thinking "seriously??"

When I'm in a very sappy mood, I can put up with it, but a lot more now it's like, we built our friendship around the fact that we've had such similar experiences, and now it's a little tiring to be saying the same things over and over trying to make her feel better whilst going "well, damn, if I had a friend like me when I was going through all this crap...."

[Mysterygirl202]

I woud say yes . This is bad. We all struggle and she needs you. However you need to be honest with her. Dont lie to her. If you dont feel your fit to be the one to help her find someone else who is because it seems your struggling too and two people who are struggling cant help each other. But try to be a good friend