[vanessa22]

My mom really knows how to say the WRONG things. Im going through a challenging time and she knows that, she knows my goal right now is to not worry so much about what im eating- is that i eat, period. Regularly.. Ive had some difficulties that makes it hard to do so.. I have alot of fear. I dont wanna over eat..and yet i GOTA eat..and when i feel i need to eat im gona eat whatevers easiest for me.. My mom made me feel completely guilty. I asked her if shed like to bake something..i was starving. She said "id rather see you eat a REAL meal". Thanks. Now i feel guilty for wanting that food.. I feel as if now i SHOULD eat something different..but i dont want to. She suggested stuff i definitely wouldn't want as if she was doing it on purpose. Its hard enough to eat as it is.. I was feeling hungry/dizzy i need to eat..but now i jjust know eds gona rid me with guilt no matter what i eat. What to do?

[optimize990h]

Hi vannessa22!

Does she listen to how you feel and then adjust her behaviour?

If she ignores your explanations, then she might need education on how to effectively communicate.

She must be told what words or phrases trigger you in a negative way. Also explain that the "hard sell, close the deal" type of talk and attitude is not constructive, but it is destructive.

If those suggestions are not effective then you need more input from PC members and the pockets of information at this website.

Either post another new thread or continue to post to this thread.

PC members welcome you here and if the other members can offer feedback to your situation those will be more ideas for you to think about.

If you have any questions, private message one of the community liaisons, including myself.