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Aug 24, 2013, 10:34 PM
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i'm overweight....and professionals have always been ok with me trying to lose weight...or even encouraging me to do so.
tho in reality, i know that i have to NOT focus/try to lose weight if i really want to recover (which I am not sure about right now) -- how can i get to a point of being ok with being overweight...or possibly GAINING weight (when I'm technically obese right now) in order to recover. it just doesn't seem possible. |
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Aug 25, 2013, 12:28 PM
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In my humble opinion, you can not actively try and lose weight AND recover from an ED at the same time. The reality is that you need to heal your relationship with food, patterns of eating and what the whole purpose the ed is serving you, what is your disorder covering up? Until you can reconcile those things, you can't try and lose weight (unless their is a major health reason you need to lose ASAP) until you are able to do it without falling on the disorder. My T and I go in circles with this one all the time- yes, you probably will gain more weight and the sucky fact of it is- we have to let it be okay. Because we have a disorder that puts an asterisk by all that we do in terms of our bodies or weight or dieting. Yes, you may be technically obese BUT you have an eating disorder that means you aren't like every other person trying to drop a few pounds. I can absolutely promise you this, whether you are currently overweight or need to gain 30 pounds all those internal battles of hating and punishing ourselves with food are the same. When the internal peace is made, you may find your body eventually adjusts to a healthier weight because you aren't using food to cope. Or you may love and accept your body and say to f--- with this, Im going to enjoy my life. I hope we all can get there. 
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Aug 25, 2013, 01:09 PM
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thanks for your response. it is totally right on -- i am thinking about self-care and of course at the top of the list is eating regularly because I know that's what I need to do. Yet, still I think, well I can severely limit my calories with the choices i make and still "restrict" while no one really KNOWS I am restricting because at least I am eating. Does that make sense?
ugh. anyway. yeah...i want to be at a place where i can be ok with how i am. it's so hard. because i have never been underweight, but I have been what people considered "too thin" -- it's just mostly been OVERWEIGHT. I hate that word overweight...even more I hate that word obese. Why do we have to categorize and define people by their weight? |
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Aug 25, 2013, 05:45 PM
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Look for work shops on mindful eating and emotional eating. Learn the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger. For I need to do the same.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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