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Old Jul 12, 2007, 07:54 AM
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I have found this very hard to talk about in the last month. Some have gotten upset with me. But it is my own personal hell for not seeing it sooner. As a Mom I should have.
My Son had PDD and OCd since i can remember. He had a eating disorder for years where he just ate and ate. We hide food from him. Tryed everything. He would get up in the middle of the night and eat while i was sleeping.
This Oct after some surgery he decided no more, to lose weight. Which we all thought was a good thing. Well after more than 100 lbs gone he is skin and bones.
After a visit to the Drs and us all amitting there is a problem. I sit here and wonder where my eyes were. I had worryed for mths about this.
Two days ago he cut himself while cutting a bagel. HAd to lay down as it was a bad one . He started to pass out. He looked up at me and said "food is the devil"
He also needs this huge mole off and now has to wait. GAin alittle wieght first. The mole has to be tested.
I am so worryed for him for us...............................
He is my hero, he is my baby.

where were my eyes???????????????

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Old Jul 12, 2007, 07:57 AM
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Old Jul 12, 2007, 12:08 PM
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ohhhhhh muffy.... i am so very, very sorry this is happening... if I could lift your burden for awhile and just hold it for you I would....As a mom of a son and myself having an ED,,,, I feel your pain.. I do... Mom's in general cannot have the "eyes" for everything, so please don't take this all on yourself...there have been so many times I have said to myself as a mom, "if only, I had..." but in the end, I am not sure I could have changed anything.

I am praying that this helps and not hurts you.. I just so want to offer words of comfort...
You and your son remain in my thoughts and prayers...
Sincerely, freewill
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Old Jul 12, 2007, 04:15 PM
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Old Jul 12, 2007, 05:01 PM
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Old Jul 12, 2007, 05:40 PM
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(((MUFFY))). You were just doing what you thought was the best that you could do for your son. No one is perfect in this world. I know with all the sincerity you have toward your family that your actions were meant to help your child. Take care. Soidhonia
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Old Jul 13, 2007, 07:03 AM
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Oh Muffy i am sorry. It is not your fault. This doesnt make you a bad parent whatsoever. Eating disorders are cruel and manipulative. It would have been surprizing if you had noticed straight away. You are doing so well. Stay strong for him and he will pull through. Its a struggle ahead but he can do it. Just know that if he is angry or struggles against gaining weight its the illness and not necessarily him speaking.
Take care xxx
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Old Jul 22, 2007, 06:32 PM
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Thank you everyone for your kind words. Up to this point from the day I posted this I thought we were on the up swing. Silly me..........

On thursday I let him go camping with kids from his school and parents. It was with the understanding they would make sure he kept eating. WHen he came home I was coming out of a room , for a minute stood still and did not know him. In 4 short days had dropped 10 lbs. Less than 4 days. OMG is all i can say. OMG again as A Mom. WAtching the ever disapearing boy.
Since the drs he had not lost weight. But had not gained.
Tonight he said he was fat still...you know on his stomach, his chin, his leggs. WHaT fat I said thats lose skin.
It is the sadest thing to watch your child distroy them selfs.
All as I can say is I feel like I am on a frieght train with him and I am watching him jump. ANd there is no way I can stop it.
OMG how sad for him, How sad for us. JUst plain how sad!
sorry for this post.
Muffy

By the way his new belt that he has had on everytime I weighed him is 5 extra lbs. notice I said new
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Old Jul 22, 2007, 09:38 PM
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My heart aches for you and your son... As a mom of a son (22yrs old) I can feel the pain that you are feeling.. It is easier for us Mom's to be sick than to watch our children be sick... Eating Disorders happen... they just happen...
It is not something that is caused... (just my opinion).. or because someone didn't do something.. so the best thing is to take it really gentle on yourself.

I know that your son can beat this.... with support, he can do this..

I am 3 meals a day, every day. This is my mircle from God,
in answer to my prayers and others. If you could have seen me even 6 weeks ago..

So I know this can be done.. I offer my understanding and any help, support that I can give to your son and you.

Sincerely,
freewill
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