[FloweringHope]

How can I stop overeating?
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[GNRgirl]

I'm dealing with the same thing - I'm still looking for a good way to stop. Have you tried anything that seems to work so far? The best thing I do right now is to just distract myself as much as possible and eat gum if I feel like eating when I shouldn't.

[FloweringHope]

Dear GNR girl,

That sounds good! I just feel so overwhelmed, out of control and powerless - I guess I feel I gain some form of power with food!

I WANT TO STOP AND NEED TO KNOW HOW!

I do study heaps, read and research, yet I still feel this burning inside to eat, it's so emotional!

[Rapunzel]

You can't usually just stop something that is serving an important purpose for you, whether that is coping with emotional pain, or even relieving boredom. You have to find something appropriate to substitute. What you decide on is up to you. Gum might work sometimes, or maybe eating healthy snacks like vegetables, or something other than eating - going for a walk or doing something with your hands or singing, ... You get the idea. Hey, if ykou find a substitute that works for you, why not post it here?

Remember, if it is about dealing with emotional pain, you're going to need to deal with those emotions somehow too. But I bet you already knew that.

[FloweringHope]

Dearest Rapunzel,

You are always encouraging and confronting - which I greatly respect!

I'm eating because I am scared of being thin and attractive again! I just feel so abused, walked on and used - can't seem to work me out!

Before I slept with my T, I shared my rape experience - he did help me in part, but he though I needed physical attention, then we where sleeping together, then the threats started....

I don't want to be a prisoner to food anymore!

Thanks again, Rapunzel for your wise counsel!

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[amuseable]

Well Sleeping I am still struggling with that issue even after all these damn years. I have serious, serious problems with food. 5 years ago I had a gastric bypass, which almost killed me, to lose weight. I lost 109 pounds in 6 months and then nothing. Since then I have regained 25. While I am usually good about the exercising I just cannot put the %#@&#! food down it seems. I feel so ashamed. I went to Overeaters Anonymous but quit after a few years cause I was the only one not losing weight. My eating problem is pretty bad when you consider all that I have tried to chamge it.
Sleeping it sounds like you have some other issues as well, as I do. I remember one post where you mentioned you felt "trapped" in your relationship with your T. You wanted to get out but felt unable to on your own. Oh my goodness I thought that is EXACTLY how I felt all those years ago when it happened to me! You are not alone! PM me if you like.

[FloweringHope]

Thank you Amuseable!

Can hear and feel what you are saying - understand what you're going through to a certain extent!

I'm just about to undertake some radical NLP - change my central nervous system responses to food and situations - associating pain and pleasure differently!

Have intense emotions - need to express them and not use them as a fear response anymore!

Still have very up and down responses to the T - he rang the other day, asking me to return and talk about 'our feelings' toward each other - my sister rang up and said, "his services are no longer required!" - Have to rely on others to a certain extent at present, otherwise I would return (out of compulsion), to his "care" (tongue in check!).

Thanks for sharing - I'm am here for you too!

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