depressed and no intrests, plz help

Hi... I have mentioned this once before but not much response last time... my eating disorder has made me lose interest in everything...
my boyfriend just told me last night that he doesnt understand me at all. he doesnt understand why im so depressed and why i can't just go places and get into things. i dont know why i can't either.
i feel upset when he is not around because I don't ever have anything to do. I just sit at home in my room... either sit on facebook or lay on my bed staring at the ceiling.
I have no idea what i want to do for a hobbie, because i am not interested in anything, and i dont have that motivation to just randomly pick something and do it.... maybe motivation isnt the word but more like strength or ability. This is causing me to cry a lot at random times and feel depressed... atleast i think its the cause.

can anyone give me any advice??

I am not really sure how to help you. I would say maybe try to let your boyfriend help you out and maybe agree to try something at first maybe onces every few weeks and work up to once a week. Maybe by trying to get out and do things will help you find something you enjoy.

My friends knew that dance has always been a big part of my life and they aren't letting me give it up because it's the only social aspect that I have. So I understand the depression from the ED. Feel free to PM me and I will keep thinking of ideas for you.

Doll

Thanks Doll, I will take you up on that.

oh dang... i feel exactly the same way. i've stopped going to raves, they depress me because i can't enjoy them the way i used to.

i don't want to go out because i feel ashamed of the way i look, so i do stuff inside, like paint and make music. though at times it is also depressing because i can't paint and i can't make music. sometimes i also write because it helps to release feelings. whatever is going on your mind is ok. the lead singer of saves the day once said that writing stream of consciousness for 20 minutes every day will help you get started. i've tried it, i don't write it every day but every now and then. i guess it helps abit.

i hope you have told your doctor about your depression and even better if you are in therapy. even seeing a psych nurse is more helpful than nothing at all.

people who don't have issues with eating (or any other mental health thing) have difficulty understanding what it's about. does your boyfriend know what is going on? my boyfriend recently found out and now i can't even crack jokes about bulimia without him taking them seriously. what a crock. he tries very hard to understand, he is one of the most understanding people on earth but still he just doesn't get it how some things (esp food related) he says hurt me.

this disease is sheer torture. i wish i could take it away from all of you (here and wherever all the other ED people are).

but for now... just try to take things slowly, be good to yourself and give yourself time. many hugs

Thank you.
I totally relate with you. My boyfriend goes to parties with a bunch of younger girls who can eat anything and still look good (for now!), but I always stay at home and watch tv because i dont feel like i can look as good or look as girly and fun as they can.
i also want to paint but never have "gotten around to it" but also i would feel embarrased if my painting isnt any good. i have made music inthe past but it has only upset me eventually. Funny that you said writing is good, cause I used to, but for the 6 months that I started my therapy I stopped doing that, I finally started again last week.
My boyfriend is also soooo understanding and patient with me but he can't truly understand why nothing satisfies me and how I am never happy... I want to be a happier person for him and myself, but its hard to ignore that the disorder is there.
no i havent told my therapist or doctor about feeling bad all of the time, as I never really thought that I had depression and still have a hard time admitting it, but I just dont know what else it would be. So i guess i should tell them when I get the chance next.

anyway, thanks a lot for your post, chat again soon i hope
-ashley