think mom's restricting, too.

yeah. i wish there was something i could do. she doesn't view it as restrictive, but she's eating the equivalent of about 1 meal a day. i'm actually not sure how bad this is... it's not so bad as it could be really... but i'm worried about her. she really doesn't have much options for weight loss though... she physically can't exercise, and average dieting hit a plateau for her. i'm not sure what to think.

Hi Taonuviel,

I don't know what to think either ... time will tell . What all is bothering your mother ? Is she ill or just physically disabled. We can howl at the moon and that doesn't change the other person . We can only ask for help for ourselves . I enjoyed your photos of your art work . and your passed on Puppy love of your life. Im sorry . Mine is on her last years . I love basset hounds. Uncle had three of them.

How you doing with food ?

Just let your mom know you care and your concerned . I'm sorry shes unable to exersize . depending on a persons dissability theres the option of water aerobics if you live near a community pool .



Patricia

she suffers from ms, lupus and fibromyalsia. she's obese, has constant pain, tires very easily, gets faint from heat and can barely regain body heat when she gets cold. she mostly stays home. in the summer she swims in our pool when it's warm enough for her, but that's not very often. she's too self-conscious to swim in public.

this is pretty much what i'd do if i were her... it's what i'm doing now because i couldn't get enough exercise to lose any more weight because of chronic back pain, and diet and swimming wasn't doing anything more. similar place for both of us, i guess. i think her only other option would be weight loss surgery... if she could get it. but that's a big if.

i guess i just hate to see her doing this, but don't see a better option for her.

and that classic fear of becoming one's mother... i grew up with her dieting, and trying it myself, and now we're both doing this, and i think i'm close to the size she was at my age...

i guess this similarity is touching me too close. i feel so sad and hopeless when i think of how my mom lives, constantly feeling worse and losing the ability to do things she used to, and she's not that old. i feel so sad for her, and scared for me too.