[Restin]

I've been in therapy a year and have gotten a strong positive transference on the T. T explains how I can be the good parent my inner child never had. Does this mean I'm supposed to quit therapy now and just go do that?

[Perna]

Hi, Restin, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I don't think your T means you are to leave yet, it is in therapy that I learned to be the parent my inner child didn't have (my mother died when I was very young).

[pegasus]

Hello Restin,

I don't think your T means that therapy has come to end unless they have stated that. Therapy needs to end when you and the therapist feel that you are ready. I do believe that the attachment and transference (positive) is a good thing as we learn to have own internal therapist. Learning to nurture your inner child takes time and practice and it may be that this is what you are now going to start working on. This would be a really good thing to bring up with your therapist in your next session and you can discuss it more with them. Sounds like you are making progress!

[Restin]

Thanks Perna and Pegasus, your advice is so much appreciated. Perna, I lost my mother when I was one (you mentioned you lost yours early) and then I was raised by numerous aunts and uncles families. They all made it very clear they were not my mother and don't get dependent. I told my T about that last session. But T never has asked how I feel about her, or discussed transference. So, I'm mortally afraid to bring it up first. I'm scared out of my wits she will just tell me the hard facts about dependence, just like I've heard all my life. Actually I'm one of the most independent, high achieving, persons I know, except for my inner kid who thinks she needs this T.