Some advice?

Hi,

Sorry for the long thread. I need some advice..

Basically my GP and myself decided that I would need a gastric band to help me loose weight. I saw the consultant who told me I had to see a psychiatrist.. But to get the operation I would need to be mentally stable for 6 months. I haven't been mental stable at all and I have been keeping my problems from my mental health worker for weeks now. But I saw the psychiatrist yesterday and told her I was doing so well, no voices, no flashbacks. I have deliberately stopped my medication and cancelling my appointments to see my mental health worker cos I wanna have the operation so I can loose weight and feel better within my self..

The thing is I am really struggling with the voices, hallucinations and flashback and I am very suicidal and just wanna self harm. My OCD is bad too..I cannot tell my mental health worker for 2 reasons. 1. I told the psychiatrist at the weight loss clinic I was doing really well and she will contact my mental health worker next week to confirm this and 2. I told my mental health worker I am not needing her or medication and if I go against that she know I had lied to the psychiatrist and her and she won't be happy I think..

I rang my mental health worker this week to cancel my appointment and she asked how I was doing and I said I was doing really well. If I ring her up and say I have lied and I am doing rubbish she will know I had lied and 2. I won't get my gastric band..

I don't know what to do.. Help??

Hello Twistergirl,

We all do it. We all say we are doing, 'fine... I'm ok... nothing wrong with me!' Please forgive yourself for not owning up to your reasons for not letting your mental health team know what is really going on. They won't be mad at you, they would much rather know how your mental health really is. Share this with the mental health professional that you personally trust the most. The quicker you can get stability and back on track, the sooner you can then go for the gastric band. If you explain that to them then maybe, they can help you get where you want to be. Please don't lose hope.

Please be gentle with yourself.
Major surgeries can add extra stresses and it's better to be honest with your medical team, even if it's merely a delay. Post surgery could result in feeling even worse, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

I get, truly understand wanting to feel better about your body. It's just that right now, you aren't feeling well, and why rush it?

I don't, personally know, what's involved with the operation and post op, recovery. Just concerned between the anesthesia and post op meds, what you are struggling with now, could be severely exacerbated.



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Can I ask if your weight gain is from medication? I am bipolar and my doctor put me on Lamictal. I went down four dress sizes in five months. It just wasnt hungry (which is a side effect). I dont have a lot of cravings for sweets or snacking. What I really want is fruit. Even soda is blah. Another side effect is increase libido. Another plus.

I dont know what your diagnosis is. I dont even know if I helped.

Give yourself a break. List all the positives about you as a person. List all the people that care about you (including the check out lady at the super market that you tend to talk to) Dont short change yourself.