[mamabear80]

I need help. I have 14 year old who I am very worried about. He has no friends and no living family besides his sister, grandfather, and me.
we don't live in area near any kids of any age. We can't join clubs because we can't afford them or the gas for the car(we are poor). I have never had friends and I am really worried about him. What should I do?

[gma45]

Early teen years are hard for most kids. There is usually free things to do after school. Does he like to read? The library doesn't cost anything. What is he doing that you are concerned with? What about church? I am just trying to think of somethings that would give him some socialization. I hope I have helped a bit but not knowing what is happening it is hard to say. Maybe someone else here may have some better ideas for you.

[pegasus]

Hello mamabear80, welcome to Psych Central.

What are you concerned about with your 14 year old? It sounds like you love him very much. Does he have any hobbies? Yes there are activities after school and maybe he could have his school friends round to stay over. You might like to try our Healthy Parenting forum also.

[avlady]

My son is 23 and suffering with social anxiety disorder and put on new meds for it even though it doesn't seem to be helping now hopefully in the future it may be under control. I know how worrysome it can be too for a parent.

[Heather Unbalanced]

Originally Posted by mamabear80

I need help. I have 14 year old who I am very worried about. He has no friends and no living family besides his sister, grandfather, and me.
we don't live in area near any kids of any age. We can't join clubs because we can't afford them or the gas for the car(we are poor). I have never had friends and I am really worried about him. What should I do?

i didnt have many friends at that age either (also grew up poor and still am under poverty level now), also have a very small family. i relate! how is he in school? not being bullied or anything is he? you mentioned that you, yourself never really had friends either. perhaps teaching by example would benefit your son? are there school clubs he can join? if he is okay with you, his sister, and grandfather in respects to proper social skills and the like, i dont think you have much to worry about. also-some people are just natural loners. it doesnt certainly mean there is anything wrong.

id like to commend you because its sad that many parents would not reach out like you have for your sons well-being.

its important to be close to your children, of course, haha. but because he doesnt really have anyone else its important to not be overbearing as he could develop a total dependence on you.