[menojy]

I noticed that my niece is so critical about physical appearance.

one time she had her hair done (her natural hair is fuzzy and not soft, she suffers to comb it every day) and it was nice and silky, easy to comb etc. but as soon as she finished she went to her older sister saying "my hair is so much better than you !!" (he sister's natural hair is soft and silky and brownish). Her sister never says such things to her, she never makes the little one feel conscious about her appearance which made me think it's weird.

Another time we were playing, my little niece and I, and then she said "What is this hair! (pointing to my very soft facial hair that you can barely see) do you have a beard ?" .. I was confused a bit and I thought about that extra hair on her arm that her mother removes it for her every now and then. (as if hair is not a natural process of a human body)

At other time we were all sitting together with my mother (her grandma) and she started saying "Grandma, why are you so fat !? Look how my mum is thin (which is not entirely true) and look how I am thin .. ", she said it in a teasing manner, as if she is superior to her grandma.

Is that normal ?

Note : as a family we don't behave like this. Never we try to put others down . we never make her feel bad about herself. that's why I don't know where this is coming from.

[waiting4]

rI don't really know your family dynamic but I would have to suggest that this type of behaviour is learned. Not necessarily by watching or hearing others in the family speaking thusly about people, but sometimes due to criticisms by others to HER.

The fact is, I have never heard of a child (especially at age 7) just pop up and become critical of people, unless it is what she has learned (apple falling from tree scenario) or what she is actively experiencing. (And your comment at the beginning of this post "(her sister's natural hair is soft and silky and brownish)" makes it clear you have noticed an 'imperfection' that causes this child to 'suffer to brush' her own frizzy hair....to a 7 year old, that's quite the criticism especially if it is used to distinguish herself from a sibling who has generally 'soft, brown' hair.)

It is NOT normal in the sense that a child should not express this sort of derision for others in that manner, so openly and regularly. I would suggest looking more closely at her family dynamics (and yours) for a clearer answer to this issue. Once identified, you may want to consider intervention therapy.....before what starts off as a unpleasant attitude, morphs into a full blown personality disorder. IMHO

[gma45]

Well I live with my grand daughter age 5 and she is honest to a fault. I always say out of the mouth of babs comes no lie. Little kids sometimes don't realize what they are saying may hurt someones feelings They are just honest! I don't know if I would worry about it. I know I try and let my gd know what she is saying is hurtful and not nice and kinda let it go at that. It seems to be working because other times she is very caring and thoughtful.