[time67676]

Hi I'm here on a relathionship issue.
Without going into long story becuse it is. My bf and I met a year ago. Hit it off imediatly we were unsepertable. We fell deep in love. We quickly moved intogether. Three months into the relathionship he asked me to move towns with him. I said yes I was so happy finally met a man I felt so much for. His attitude quickly changed. He became jelous, controlling, and unpreditably abusive when he drank to much. I have left him twice before and swore I would not go back to him, but his promise to change always had me come back. I truly belived he was sorry for the way he treated me. And he has changed a little but his jelousy is still there. Three weeks ago with the promise of getting married within the week( we had been planning to get married though the jp) we were back in love everything had been perfect. Until one night of parting we got into an argument this time it was me that started it, I dameged his stuff and hit him several times which made him angry and he beat my face till I bleed, he called the cops on me and left town. I was there explaing to the police what had happended alone. The very next day I woke up with a black eye, I waited for him to come home to apoligize to him it was me who caused the fight. He didn't show up his aunt did and she convinced me to finally leave him. I did with the help of my friend. Its been three weeks now and I'm getting my life back on track looking for a job getting help with my drinking. Now he is trying to convice me to go back to him. But this time I told him I would not go back until he gets help for his jelosy, controlling and abusive ways. Now I am wodering if he does get the help can he change is it possible for a narcisstic to change his ways? I am doing me harm by still communicating with him? Thank you for some advice?

[Altered Moment]

Welcome to PC. Yes I think he can change if he gets the proper help and does the hard work it takes. He has to first realize there is something wrong with his behavior. It can take a long time and a lot of work.

Good for you for standing up for yourself and getting help for yourself.

[pegasus]

Hello time67676, welcome to Psych Central.

So, this jealous, controlling abusive guy gives you a full on black eye and you want to go back to him??? I know love is blind and it's been three weeks but keep moving forward, don't look back, you'll find someone else that will treat you far better. No one deserves to be abused.