[TheGagagirl1234]

I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I really think there might be something wrong with my father. Since my parents got divorced he had been extremely lazy.. To the point that he always clean dishes very late, which is hours after dinner and other meals. He even had my sister to help him because he is so unorganized. He can't (won't) even make food. He always buys something that can be made quickly (fastfood, etc.). He also has a really bad breath, and sometimes it smells awfully. I've tried to give him a cooking book with simple recipes, but he always refuses to use it. I don't think it could be stress related because he's almost retired. I don't know what to do anymore, and I'm really worried.

[Thunder Bow]

He may have Clinical Depression. Have him checked out by a doctor.

He does sound depressed. I don't know how long it has been since the divorce? If it's been less than a year, he may just be going through a tough period of adjustment. If it's been two years or longer (just a rough estimate) it's more worrisome.

I'm not clear about whether you and your sister live with your father.

[TheGagagirl1234]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

He may have Clinical Depression. Have him checked out by a doctor.

The only problem is that he never wants to be checked by his doctor if needed. He always says that it's better if he stays home.

[TheGagagirl1234]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

He does sound depressed. I don't know how long it has been since the divorce? If it's been less than a year, he may just be going through a tough period of adjustment. If it's been two years or longer (just a rough estimate) it's more worrisome.

I'm not clear about whether you and your sister live with your father.

Well, he's always been lazy, but it has gotten worse since the divorce. And that was about 5 years ago.

[Protectiva]

Awww, I'm sorry to hear this about your Dad. It's hard to watch someone you love seem like they are suffering or having a bad struggle with something. That is very sweet that you are concerned for him. Divorce can be very difficult, even devastating. It might have really hurt your father when he got divorced from the person he thought he was going to spend the rest of his life with. It sounds like he really might be depressed. And it's not surprising that he doesn't want to see a doctor. I'm not sure how old your Dad is, but in my experience, most men, especially ones over 35 (younger men seem to be much more apt to seek professional assistance when something is wrong) do NOT want to see a doctor, psychologist, therapist, etc.

Maybe just have a frank discussion with him. Tell him what you've noticed and tell him you are concerned and want him to feel better. If he refuses to go to a doctor or other professional, you can't force him, but you could tell him you would view it as a favor to you. Of course let him know you love him and support him.

[TheGagagirl1234]

Originally Posted by Protectiva

Awww, I'm sorry to hear this about your Dad. It's hard to watch someone you love seem like they are suffering or having a bad struggle with something. That is very sweet that you are concerned for him. Divorce can be very difficult, even devastating. It might have really hurt your father when he got divorced from the person he thought he was going to spend the rest of his life with. It sounds like he really might be depressed. And it's not surprising that he doesn't want to see a doctor. I'm not sure how old your Dad is, but in my experience, most men, especially ones over 35 (younger men seem to be much more apt to seek professional assistance when something is wrong) do NOT want to see a doctor, psychologist, therapist, etc.

Maybe just have a frank discussion with him. Tell him what you've noticed and tell him you are concerned and want him to feel better. If he refuses to go to a doctor or other professional, you can't force him, but you could tell him you would view it as a favor to you. Of course let him know you love him and support him.

Thank you for replying! I'll try to do that