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Ok long story short,took my friend to whole foods, she went to the restoom,I continued shopping with her groceries in the cart, 10 mins later I find out she's reshopped the things she already put in my cart claiming she couldn't find me so she bought those things and left me with a cart full of her unbought things, she walked over to trader Joe's and bought some other things, what does this mean, we both have cellphones but she didn't text to see if I was still in the store with her stuff, I'm thinking it might be a little passive aggressive,thoughts?
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You are right, it was passive aggressive lack of communication on her part.
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sounds like it!!!
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Hello JsInLoveWC,
I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that this is passive aggressive. Can you explain to me why you think this, had you just had an arguement? It may be that the person could not find you as she stated and needed to get the shopping done. Does the person have anxiety or memory issues, dissociation issues or attention issues? There could be a genuine reason for the behaviour. __________________ ![]() Pegasus Got a quick question related to mental health or a treatment? Ask it here General Q&A Forum “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live it's whole life believing that it is stupid.” - Albert Einstein |
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She does have anxiety issues, and she did just
Get out of her therapy session right before hand, but it was weird, like between the time we drove from her session to the store everything was fine,we even had a great conversation about heaven and who gets to go out was a great conversation, then we start shopping, then she had to go use the restroom,I'm a big guy in a small store she could have found me or at least texted. .....I had to text her to see if she was still in the restroom,only to find out she had left me in there, it baffled my mind,and from there on all the way back to her house she was quiet and distant,I even asked her did you think I left you there? She said idk maybe a little,I'm like why would I leave you thereworn your stuff in my cart, why would I leave you there but stay at your therapists office for am hour during her session, why would i leave her when I'm always there for her and she knows I'm in love with her, I know she's going through a lot I do, but I was just curious to the type of behavior that was because I don't believe it to be a "normal "thing to do. |
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That was mentioned, and she did mention that she kinda thought I left the store but instead of texting she just rebought the stuff that she had already put in my cart,them left the store completely to the store next door, |
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I agree with pegasus. I need more information before deciding that your friend is p-a. She might be extremely shy, she could have cognitive issues. I just don't know.
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It depends on the lager context. One could suggest continuing to shop while she was busy in the restroom is passive aggressive too.
I don't think you were. Most likely you just didn't want to waste time in the store sitting around right? Gotta give them a break unless there's a pattern. Look for patterns of this kind of behavior. One instance is not enough to conclude anything. |
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Do you think she felt guilty that you were willing to do so much for her and sort of had to "escape" for a bit?
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If I went to the bathroom and my friend didn't wait for me - or at least say, 'Hey, if you don't mind I'm going to keep shopping...is that okay with you?' - I would have felt somewhat hurt. I would think my friend was trying to rush through our time together, or just trying to disregard me being with her.
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I continued shopping with her groceries in the cart
Um, you left HER. Why didn't you wait at the restrooms for her to return? Perhaps she is the one miffed. I certainly would have been. Also, you asked why she didn't call you. Why didn't you call her? Her behaviour was perfectly normal as a result. |
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